Originally Posted by MomtoDandJ
Addie -- we are in the same boat! I live in downtown Chicago with my two kids and I love it! All my mommy friends from when my oldest son was a baby have either already moved to the burbs or are planning to do so soon. And we're.... not sure when/if we're moving! My husband and I both grew up in the suburbs so we're familiar with what that entails. But we love living in the city! I'm a 5-minute walk to 4 different museums and my husband also has a relatively short commute to work (short enough he could bike, but the downtown traffic is crazy for bikers so he takes the train).
I don't really have any advice, but I did want to say that you're totally not alone in this question. We ask ourselves all the time if we're being selfish and if we should move to the burbs so our kids can ride their bikes in the street and go to the neighborhood public school. (Where we are in the city, the public elementary school isn't great. So if we stay we'll probably have to put our kids in private school which we're not sure about... very expensive plus super hard to get into.)
Anyway, it's really interesting reading what others have replied, so thanks for starting this discussion thread!
Love this post! You live where DH and I want to live when done with our kids schooling! In fact, we are visiting the museum campus today for dd's school assignment. We loved being in the city during our college education and living there. DH's job was in the western suburbs and mine was a territory so we ended up in the western suburbs. Our first home was a great starter home, but you bet we bought in a good school district. We never did use that school, we moved to a larger home right before DD1 started kindy. So we are on the other side of town now in a kid infested neighborhood with a top ranked by Chicago mag school. Yes, we chose the neighborhood for the school. But it tied with a neighborhood full of families, 4 of which have 3rd graders and/or kids going to start school in the fall like my younger dd2.
Its also within walking distance to "downtown" suburbia and the train.
We wanted a great place my kids could run up and down the block with other kids, go knock on a neighbors' door and play. We got it. We walk to school with others doing the same etc. We both grew up in similar neighborhoods so we wanted that for our kids.
OTH, my BIL/SIL still live in the city (both grew up in the burbs as well) and their dd attends a magnet school PrK-3rd with 2,000 other students. Appllying for that was hell. But they are happy, even with a 30 min drive back and forth everyday to the school. We would love love love to live in the city, but for now, this is how we want to raise our kids so suburbia it is. We figure in 15 years we can downsize when our youngest is done w the schooling here. Move to the city and let a new family move into the kid infested neighborhood, pay the high property taxes, tend to a house and lawn, and use the schools. Also, it keeps the neighborhood and schools thriving when new people move in and put down roots.