So, I've been thinking about this for a long time. Would home birth midwives think of me as a flaky client, since I've had 2 different midwives for my first two births, and I'm thinking about trying to find a different midwife for my third birth?
First birth, had excellent prenatal care throughout by a midwife and her partner. Labor was long, and we transfered for pitocin augmentation. Birth at hospital went fine enough - pretty low intervention, and really, a pretty good experience, inspite of not being at home. They were the only midwives I could find near me, and they were about 1 hr 15 min away. I generally liked their care, but I guess I was a little nervous because of the transfer, and I felt that maybe they had misrepresented themselves a little - my primary midwife (I think) was apprenticing under the first, although she'd done enough births to be on her own. It seems like my primary kept referring and deferring to the other one, which felt a little weird.
When I found I was pregnant with #2, I decided to see if there were any new mw's in the area. I found two different MW's, both about an 50 minutes from me. I interviewed both, and choose the one who had seen more births (mennonite lady who attends mostly amish). She didn't do much prenatal care, and sometimes it felt like I new more about pregnancy than she did (Although maybe she just didn't express herself well.) By not much, I mean she said she usually sees her clients just 2-3 times the entire pregnancy before birth, although she was willing to see me more if I preferred (ETA: I did choose to see her once a month). birth was fast, and she didn't get there til afterwards. the placenta was hung up, but she did a fine job of making sure everything came out and was okay. She's really busy though - sometimes she has 14+ clients in a month.
So, now, #3 will be arriving, and I'm trying to decide if I want to go back with her again, seek out ANOTHER midwife, or I don't know.
Am I a complete flake? if you knew someone who changed midwives for every birth, what would you think? If you were the "new" midwife I was interviewing, would you be cautious about taking me a a client?