My 8 year old is going through something. She has always been an easygoing kid who was happy to hear about interesting stuff or try something new. But over the last year, she is becoming very quick to announce that anything new is "boring"-- before she even tries it, or knows anything about it. Whenever I suggest an activity, she rejects it in favor of playing online or imaginary play in her room. She's always been dramatic, but that's ramped up too. She cries over a change in the time of dinner, or having to sit quietly through something "boring" (which happens maybe once a month?)-- it can be incredibly rude. If she's disappointed on a bad day, she'll throw a temper tantrum! It's like suddenly having a 2 year old again.
Is the reluctance to try new things a normal phase for unschoolers? I'm half tempted to take her in to the pediatrician if the emotional stuff doesn't settle down, but I think at least part of it is that she's spending too much time in her own head.
My older daughter is only a year and a half older, and has always been fussed over by our extended family for her academic successes. I sometimes wonder if she's rejecting all things academic (including art and music which she's always loved) because she's comparing herself to her older sister, and feels like she can't compete. When I talk to her about the reluctance to try new things, she asks to start an activity she knows she can't do until the fall. If I try to talk to her about the emotional outbursts, she tells me she didn't get much sleep last night. I feel like she has set phrases she uses to get me to stop asking her.
I believe in the value of imaginary play, but there's a limit to how much time anyone should spend alone in their bedroom, KWIM? We do have regular activities out of the house, so it's not like she's up there 24/7, but it's a lot (and I'm an introvert-- I respect alone time). Any advice about how to draw her out?