im having a stupid battle inside myself as to what kind of wife i should be. my mom is not a great example, i never want to be what she is (she isnt terrible, but her marriage is down the toilet and i never want to treat my dh the way she treats my dad.) my MIL is no better.
i WANT to be the kind of wife that is a partner to her dh. i dont want to dictate to him what he is to do, eat, wear, etc ... my female relatives all do this to their dhs and i dont like it.
so i have been trying so hard to treat my dh as an equal, a partner, i have been trying to ask for and value his opinion as much a possible, but its only been leading to arguements and frustration.
so i finally asked him, "do you NEED me to tell you what to do for everything?!" and he said YES! can you believe it? i asked him why, and he said thats how he was raised, and thats what makes him feel comfortable. now, is this ok? i dont mind being "in charge" but a part of me feels like im leaving him out. but thats the way he wants it.
and i have noticed on those few times when i told him what to do (he wanted to snack on chips right before dinner, i said no, eat fruit, he pouted then ate the fruit) he seemed totally fine with it and actually seemed happy!
does anyone else run their household like this? i feel like its wrong but he WANTS me to be the "boss." im just confused.