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Poll Results: What number children is this for you?

 
  • 24% (6)
    1st & 2nd
  • 40% (10)
    2nd & 3rd
  • 24% (6)
    3rd & 4th
  • 4% (1)
    4th & 5th
  • 4% (1)
    5th & 6th
  • 0% (0)
    6th & 7th
  • 4% (1)
    7th & 8th
  • 0% (0)
    8th & 9th
  • 0% (0)
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25 Total Votes  
post #21 of 52

I'm 13 weeks and have also had a really rough start.  With my older son, who's 6 now, I had a PERFECT pregnancy, felt great the entire time.  This time I've had severe, all-day nausea that is just now starting to wax and wane a bit, extreme fatigue (that is holding on strong), tons of abdominal pains, major constipation (although that is letting up a bit!), major food aversions, lack of appetite the majority of the time, and just costant general discomfort.  I'm hoping things get better soon....but also afraid they're only gonna' get worse!

 

dearAbbey- I'm also pretty freaked out about this too- this was an unplanned preganancy that actually comes at a really bad time for us...and the idea of twins never even crossed my mind til the u/s tech informed me!!  I loved being pregnant my first time around (like I said, it was so easy) but I am not enjoying this one at all which makes me feel bad.  =(  Like you said though, it is a big shock and I'm also working on my attitude!

 

Hope your appt goes well tomorrow Mama Love!!

 

post #22 of 52
Thank you Starlit! My appt. was good, everything is going well, and we heard both heartbeats:heartbeat heartbeat.gif ! I go back in 4 weeks, hopefully I'll have an U/S then.
post #23 of 52
  • Name? (if you feel like it)  Leslie
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  • You and maybe your partners age at the birth? 36 & 38
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  • Are the babies Mono or Di or what combo of both?  We believe Babies A & B are in one sac with a membrane and possibly one placenta. Baby C has her own sac/placenta - not sure how all of that goes together
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  • What number of kids will is be for you?  #3,4,5
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  • Genders? Will you be finding out?  They are all girls, making a total of five girls for our family.
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  • EDD and or planned birth timing?   Due July 27 but hoping for 34w in mid June
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  • State you live in?  Canada
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  •  Anything else you want to share?  I think its really normal to have such strong reactions to finding out you are having multiples. I bawled my eyes out and then felt bad about it, then cried more. There have been a lot of ups & downs. I wasn't throwing up, but the first trimester was really hard. I had a few weeks where I felt pretty good (went to Disney in that time) and now I'm huge and tired all the time.
  • I'm 23w today and just hanging out, trying  not to do to much. I get tired before I can go very far. Our babysitter just started coming to our house last week and its been great. She was supposed to start in June, but her other family quit. To her its so easy just having 1 child to look after that she's been doing laundry for us and cleaning which is awesome. I haven't cleaned hardly anything since I got pregnant in November. Just today my sister and I sorted baby clothes. Then she washed and folded all of them while I was sleeping. So we're just hanging out, waiting for these baby girls to bake for the next few months.
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post #24 of 52
  • Name? (if you feel like it)    Danielle
     
  • You and maybe your partners age at the birth?  I just turned 32 and DH is 34
     
  • Are the babies Mono or Di or what combo of both?  Fraternal twins with separate sacs and placentas
     
  • What number of kids will is be for you?  This will be 1&2 for my husband and I
     
  • Genders? Will you be finding out?   I am only 11 weeks and do not know but we do plan on finding out foe planning purposes.
     
  • EDD and or planned birth timing?    EDD is 10/23/11 but will have a planned c-section at 37 weeks.
     
  • State you live in?  I am from Wisconsin but have resided in MS. for the last year.
     
  • Anything else you want to share?   I have a number of different emotions right now, but for the most part just happy to meet people who are in the same boat as me!

 
post #25 of 52

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You and maybe your partners age at the birth: 30 & 31

 

Are the babies Mono or Di or what combo of both?: Fraternal

 

What number of kids will this be for you?: first and second!

 

Genders?: Both boys, we think. We got a clear view of baby A but baby B was squirmy so the ultrasound tech thought she saw a penis and we're going with the guess. Although it would be amazing to have one of each :-)

 

EDD?: 40 weeks will be 7/5/11 but I am guessing the babies will come around the solstice in June. We are planning a home birth and I am really excited!

 

State you live in: upstate NY

 

Anything else you want to share?: This is going to be a wild adventure! I'm so glad that there are support groups out there that support moms of multiples and that there is something on Mothering.com! 

post #26 of 52
  • Name? (if you feel like it) Kat
     
  • You and maybe your partners age at the birth? me 30, DH 32
     
  • Are the babies Mono or Di or what combo of both? ??
     
  • What number of kids will is be for you? 4 and 5
     
  • Genders? Will you be finding out? don't know yet, but should find out soon
     
  • EDD and or planned birth timing? late August or early September 2011
     
  • State you live in? WA
     
  • Anything else you want to share? I guess this explains why I have been so tired!
post #27 of 52

I was pregnant with twins, they are now 22 months and had an awesome pregnancy except for last month being bedridden but i also had accupuncture done, i never got sick once , no food aversions and felt great , even went on a cruise and didnt get seasick either. you may want to try a licensed accupuncturist! it doesnt hurt a bit.

 

post #28 of 52

We had an ultrasound today (the midwives and doctors at our practice do one at every visit now for twins, which seems weird to me...something about not being able to properly tell whose heartbeat is whose with the doppler). I'm a little concerned about the frequency of the u/s, but it was nice that they kept it short and that we got to see the babies again. They look like babies now, not like hamsters any more (which is kind of what they looked like before!). The u/s tech was able to tell that Baby A is a girl (yay!), but Baby B seems to have chosen to remain shrouded in mystery at this point. We weren't expecting to be able to find out until next month, anyway, so this was a neat (early) surprise.

 

Our 2 1/2 year old son has decided that the baby sister will be named "Candy Bar" and the other baby (which he says is a boy) will be named "Chocolate."

 

Somehow, knowing even one of the genders makes it all feel a little more real to me. I'm still not sure how I'm going to handle it all...but it seems less abstract today. They're both still in there and will eventually come out, whether I feel ready or not! Aacck!

post #29 of 52

dear abbey congratulations on your baby girl! I have u/s every two weeks. Of all the things that are so different from a single pregnancy this has been the easiest to get used to. I have more anxiety so its good to see my girls, and it helps make it seem more real.

 

AFM I'm 25w today! I'm glad we're moving along, but somedays it still seems so far away. Everything is fine, I'm just getting more tired and sore by the day. I'll be really happy when I get to a point where these babies can be safely born.

post #30 of 52

Abbey,

Congrats on the girl!! It must be nice knowing a little more. I had been relatively ambivalent about finding out genders until I found out about the twins. Now I'm itching to know! I'm done with surprises in this pregnancy. Are you settling in to the idea? Cute that your son has names for them and sounds engaged.

 

Leslie, I can only imagine how especially with triplets you want to get to a 'safety' zone when they can make their appearance without too much concern. Is it hard to keep up with your older two? 

 

AFM, I'm still sick. STILL SICK! Still puking nearly every day, and really exhausted. I'm 14.5 weeks, and I really thought I'd be more functional by now. I'm getting incredibly anxious about my field season (I'm a biologist), which starts Wednesday. I spent a half a day in the field on Friday and though I could power through most of the work, I was beyond spent for the rest of the day. I was so tired, it didn't feel 'right', you know? It wasn't the satisfying post-hard work tired, it was complete exhaustion. I am supervising people in the field soon and will be out all day, how will I cope? How can I say no to work when an endangered species and lots of people are counting on me? What if I push myself too hard?  

My leadership style is leading by example- I should do the hardest work, I should work the longest, but I physically cannot. 

When I try to talk to DH about it, he tries to console me by saying there's nothing I can do about it. Hmmmm... doesn't help. I feel like I need to come up with some sort of strategy for dealing with it and listening to my body for fear that I will push myself too hard. Thoughts?

 

How are you ladies feeling overall? I really didn't anticipate having such a hard pregnancy. I know every pregnancy is different, but I definitely feel like with multiples, it's worse. 

 

Basically. I'm freaked. Any advice?

post #31 of 52
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Originally Posted by dear abbey View Post

We had an ultrasound today (the midwives and doctors at our practice do one at every visit now for twins, which seems weird to me...something about not being able to properly tell whose heartbeat is whose with the doppler). I'm a little concerned about the frequency of the u/s, but it was nice that they kept it short and that we got to see the babies again. They look like babies now, not like hamsters any more (which is kind of what they looked like before!). The u/s tech was able to tell that Baby A is a girl (yay!), but Baby B seems to have chosen to remain shrouded in mystery at this point. We weren't expecting to be able to find out until next month, anyway, so this was a neat (early) surprise.

 

Our 2 1/2 year old son has decided that the baby sister will be named "Candy Bar" and the other baby (which he says is a boy) will be named "Chocolate."

 

Somehow, knowing even one of the genders makes it all feel a little more real to me. I'm still not sure how I'm going to handle it all...but it seems less abstract today. They're both still in there and will eventually come out, whether I feel ready or not! Aacck!


Aww, congrats on Baby A being a girl! LOL, my 4 yr old DD thinks the names of ours will be Tootsie Roll & Lollipop! I'm hoping to have an U/S every visit, or every other visit. I'm still a bit paranoid about something going wrong; not that there is, I feel completely fine most days except for the extreme tiredness.
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Originally Posted by Mainebirdgirl View Post

Abbey,

Congrats on the girl!! It must be nice knowing a little more. I had been relatively ambivalent about finding out genders until I found out about the twins. Now I'm itching to know! I'm done with surprises in this pregnancy. Are you settling in to the idea? Cute that your son has names for them and sounds engaged.

 

Leslie, I can only imagine how especially with triplets you want to get to a 'safety' zone when they can make their appearance without too much concern. Is it hard to keep up with your older two? 

 

AFM, I'm still sick. STILL SICK! Still puking nearly every day, and really exhausted. I'm 14.5 weeks, and I really thought I'd be more functional by now. I'm getting incredibly anxious about my field season (I'm a biologist), which starts Wednesday. I spent a half a day in the field on Friday and though I could power through most of the work, I was beyond spent for the rest of the day. I was so tired, it didn't feel 'right', you know? It wasn't the satisfying post-hard work tired, it was complete exhaustion. I am supervising people in the field soon and will be out all day, how will I cope? How can I say no to work when an endangered species and lots of people are counting on me? What if I push myself too hard?  

My leadership style is leading by example- I should do the hardest work, I should work the longest, but I physically cannot. 

When I try to talk to DH about it, he tries to console me by saying there's nothing I can do about it. Hmmmm... doesn't help. I feel like I need to come up with some sort of strategy for dealing with it and listening to my body for fear that I will push myself too hard. Thoughts?

 

How are you ladies feeling overall? I really didn't anticipate having such a hard pregnancy. I know every pregnancy is different, but I definitely feel like with multiples, it's worse. 

 

Basically. I'm freaked. Any advice?


Do the people know your pregnant, and with twins? If they knew, they'd understand you not working so hard. You can't push yourself so hard anymore. Your babies are important too, I'd put them above anything right now, and I'd be taking it easy (I know I am - and my house is paying for it, kids are trying to help).

I'm feeling fine, just very tired most days. It's almost impossible to take a nap around here. I've never had morning sickness, only slight nausea in the beginning. I'm 13 weeks today.
post #32 of 52
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Originally Posted by Mainebirdgirl View Post

Abbey,

Congrats on the girl!! It must be nice knowing a little more. I had been relatively ambivalent about finding out genders until I found out about the twins. Now I'm itching to know! I'm done with surprises in this pregnancy. Are you settling in to the idea? Cute that your son has names for them and sounds engaged.

 

Leslie, I can only imagine how especially with triplets you want to get to a 'safety' zone when they can make their appearance without too much concern. Is it hard to keep up with your older two? 

 

AFM, I'm still sick. STILL SICK! Still puking nearly every day, and really exhausted. I'm 14.5 weeks, and I really thought I'd be more functional by now. I'm getting incredibly anxious about my field season (I'm a biologist), which starts Wednesday. I spent a half a day in the field on Friday and though I could power through most of the work, I was beyond spent for the rest of the day. I was so tired, it didn't feel 'right', you know? It wasn't the satisfying post-hard work tired, it was complete exhaustion. I am supervising people in the field soon and will be out all day, how will I cope? How can I say no to work when an endangered species and lots of people are counting on me? What if I push myself too hard?  

My leadership style is leading by example- I should do the hardest work, I should work the longest, but I physically cannot. 

When I try to talk to DH about it, he tries to console me by saying there's nothing I can do about it. Hmmmm... doesn't help. I feel like I need to come up with some sort of strategy for dealing with it and listening to my body for fear that I will push myself too hard. Thoughts?

 

How are you ladies feeling overall? I really didn't anticipate having such a hard pregnancy. I know every pregnancy is different, but I definitely feel like with multiples, it's worse. 

 

Basically. I'm freaked. Any advice?



I pretty much don't keep up with my older girls. Sad but true. Life is pretty boring around here. DD1 goes to school all day. I make her breakfast and lunch and help her brush her hair. Otherwise she gets herself ready. DH used to do this morning stuff because I was already gone for work, so he is enjoying the change. Soon though he'll have to do it again. DD2 gets breakfast at the same time. Our babysitter comes around 8:30 - this just started about 3 weeks ago and she is the best! Now we aren't living in complete filth and dd2 gets more attention. If I don't have an appointment then I stay on the couch. The problem is my DH working at night and on the weekends. I pretty much just get upl to get them food or small things. I try to arrange activities so they aren't too bored. My mom will come by with dinner for a few hours which helps a lot.  Basically whenever I get put on bedrest we will have to ask my mom, sisters and a few friends to come here for the hours between the sitter and bedtime to help out. DH just works stupid hours and its a good thing I love him! So far its working ok though.

 

I can't imagine  having a job like that when pregnant with one let alone two. My coworkers knew at 7 weeks that I was having twins and at 9 triplets. But it was easy for them to be accomodating since we work in an office. You might just have to change your leadership style for awhile. People are so excited when they hear twins that they have to be understanding. Hopefully you will get that 2nd trimester boost and not feel so horrible. Can you start ordering people around even though that doesn't sound like your style at all? Sounds like a cool job though! 

 

post #33 of 52

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post #34 of 52
  • Name? (if you feel like it) Nicole
  • You and maybe your partners age at the birth? 41 and 46
     
  • Are the babies Mono or Di or what combo of both? mono-identical twins
  • What number of kids will is be for you? 2 and 3
  • Genders? Will you be finding out? yes.
     
  • EDD and or planned birth timing? Due date is Nov 27th
  • State you live in? Montana
     
  • Anything else you want to share? I am scared, feeling overwhelmed..just found out today. (10 weeks 1 day) so much to think about..night nursing, stroller, how will I run? Cars. Healthy pregnancy...I have been feeling yucky for the last 5 week- very tired. Glad to meet all of you.
post #35 of 52

Hey, I was thinking we all check in again and see how everyone is doing so far. 

 

I am 31 weeks and measuring 41.  Moving is getting really hard and sleeping is too.  I have been feeling pretty good I just feel like a whale walking around and flopping around in bed.  Husband has to wake me up last night because he thought I stopped breathing.  We are getting excited about meeting our little guys.  We recently decided to have them in hospital rather than at home but the good news is that our midwife will still be with us and the Dr. will let her do most of the work.  I am a little nervous about the birth because I had first two boys at a birthing center.  We finally came up with names for the babies - Barrett and Graham (older boys are Cooper and Marshall). 

 

Anyway, how are the rest of you doing?

post #36 of 52

Congratulations on having your midwife there, and primary!  It seemed no midwife wanted to take me - a first-time mother with twins and some sever past health problems.

 

I'm doing fairly well!  - Sleeping like crazy, though I am wondering if that isn't partly from not eating quite as much at the same time the twins seem to have been having a growth spurt.  I ate more, and nutritionally dense foods, yesterday, and woke up feeling better, today.   And, today makes 25 weeks!  The last three, monthly o.b. visits, the doctors looked thrilled with my condition and the twins'.  I am certainly much larger, awkward, losing my balance, often breathless, achy (especially when I'm too tired to do my prenatal yoga & bellydance), and so on, but - barring fatigue - very healthy and emotionally very stable and happy since about 16 weeks.  My anxiety for the babies is much, much milder: and primarily a matter of counting how far we are from points of safety (24 weeks; and now 28 and 32).  Some days I'm productive, and others, do almost nothing, but my energy level is never high, and, because he knows I will do what I can, and safeguarding the twins by not wearing myself out excessively matters to both of us, my husband's very forgiving.  

 

I am excited to meet our son and daughter, but far from ready, and anxious to be making better progress.  I really want to be done with all the essentials by 30 weeks - just in case.

 

To the mothers who've found out quite recently: the first day I heard it was twins, I was more stunned than anything else.  (My husband, wonderfully, was thrilled.)  And with the added fatigue of two in the first trimester, being overwhelmed and afraid - afraid I'd lose at least one, afraid I couldn't care for both - was the major part of my reaction, alternating with elation. Now, I am so used to the idea, all I feel is how special it is.  We'll have to work a bit harder, but we get something beautiful out of it.  Other have done this, and I believe all of us (here, in this group) can, too.  I know it will be a true challenge, but it no longer seems so painfully intimidating.  And the more my little ones look and act like the newborns they'll be, the stronger and more active and individual each is, the more my love for both of them eases any sense of difficulty.  I hope that even where circumstances make the process harder, you'll all find a similar point of realistic joy, or an acceptance tinged with eagerness, at least...

post #37 of 52

Sorry for not proof-reading.  :)

post #38 of 52

Thank you for posting this. After 2 days of feeling shocked, I am starting to feel excited. Reading your note was helpful

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To the mothers who've found out quite recently: the first day I heard it was twins, I was more stunned than anything else.  (My husband, wonderfully, was thrilled.)  And with the added fatigue of two in the first trimester, being overwhelmed and afraid - afraid I'd lose at least one, afraid I couldn't care for both - was the major part of my reaction, alternating with elation. Now, I am so used to the idea, all I feel is how special it is.  We'll have to work a bit harder, but we get something beautiful out of it.  Other have done this, and I believe all of us (here, in this group) can, too.  I know it will be a true challenge, but it no longer seems so painfully intimidating.  And the more my little ones look and act like the newborns they'll be, the stronger and more active and individual each is, the more my love for both of them eases any sense of difficulty.  I hope that even where circumstances make the process harder, you'll all find a similar point of realistic joy, or an acceptance tinged with eagerness, at least...

 

post #39 of 52

Oh, I'm so glad!  Best wishes to you and your whole family (the newest ones, included!).  

post #40 of 52

Well it looks like my time to stay in the hospital hotel has come. Yesterday morning  I went for my regularly scheduled u/s to be followed by dr appt and GD test. The u/s was great and when they opened the curtain a wheelchair was there. The tech says oh by the way your cervix has shortened and its our protocol that you go in a wheelchair, but of course wouldn't tell me what. So the drs office had me go for the GD test first still not knowing. Failed that test BTW :( So my cervix was 3.9cm two weeks ago and was 1cm yesterday!!!! So of course I am in for the duration. I'm actually ok with it since it forces my dh and family to come together and take care of the other kids. They were all helping, but dh works all weekend and my mom coming for 2 hrs at dinner wasn't cutting it. I'm 28w2d so now I'm just hanging out and hoping that these girls take their time coming into the world!

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