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post #21 of 40
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Sounds like my babies-- Baby A (Matthew) was born first and was about a pound lighter and still is, at four months.


yah, maybe i was confusing. baby a was lighter at birth, but now weighs a pound more...so they aren't gaining at the same rate is what i mean...but they're both nursing from the same mom so it isnt a milk issue...they both have good output...they're both gaining...just not at the same rate...

post #22 of 40
I probably just have comprehension issues, LOL! Sorry.
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Has anyone else noticed significant gaps in development? Molly has been putting weight on her feet and superstrong forever, and Matthew is just so laid back. He's so floppy compared to Molly! And neither one is rolling yet. Well, Molly did last night but she hasn't repeated. They both seem to be early achievers in the teeth-getting department though,.

mine have been developing very differently

my girl who was born first but smaller she is farther along in neuro type stuff, first to make eye contact, lift head, is trying to roll over, my son though was larger and first to learn to nurse and now is a lot bigger but still a bit floppier and less vocal
 

 



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i have a question...rowan (baby a) was born a full lb lighter than lennox (baby b) and then got jaundiced. lennox was a lot sleepier than ro from birth, and i was feeding ro a lot more due to the jaundice, so she gained quicker...then they started to even out and weigh the same...since lex seemed to be gaining slower, i made a point to feed her longer/more often than i was since she was sleeping a lot. they both have great diaper output...that said, rowan seems to weigh MORE than lennox now...

 

has anyone's twins gained at different rates? my gut says that its normal, but there's also the fact that rowan is a lot more HERE than lex...she's physically stronger (has been lifting her head since birth and is already trying to roll over at just 1 mo. old) and seems more alert/present than lex...

my girl, baby A was smaller but only by 7 oz, she now is smaller by probably more that 2 pounds, though both have gained weight great and eat a ton, she maybe even eats more lately, so even though they are in the same size order they always have been they are certainly growing a very different rates

and my smaller one is the more "developed" one, which is always interesting

 

 

 

i think in general we notice so much more about milestones and personality because we have something to compare it to all the time, how much might we never really think about if we did not have their twin laying right next to them , doing something different? its one of the joys of twins for me, but also probably cause me to analyze things more than i might with just one

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I probably just have comprehension issues, LOL! Sorry.


naw, you just have twinfants, it causes the same effects at times!

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Hi joining in! :) GIrls are doing great. They are 6 weeks old. A weighed 6 15 at birth now weighs 9 9 and B weighed 8 4now weighs 10 3.  They are both developing the same so far. They each hit a growth spurt this week, eating less often, but now 6 oz at one time!! I am not breastfeeding.  They are becoming more awake in the day now finally and are going to sleep at about 11pm and waking up at about 2 to eat and then again at about 6. B does not wake up to eat at 2. She sleeps from 11 to about 6 already. A still eats both times, but not a lot, about 3=4 ozs at each feed. We dont wake B to feed when A does at 2, because ultimately we want A to stop eating at 2 LOL.They sleep in different cribs, they did not sleep well together from day one. Even in the womb they were very far apart. They have different personatlites. A is a screecher, when she wants something you better give it to her FAST. But after that, shes happy and very alert. They are both smiling and lifting their heads for long periods. A still has to be swaddled at night. B is very laid back with her crying, but she fusses to be held constantly. While A will lay there happily gazing or riding in the stroller, B has to be worn most all times. I am trying to get her to lie for 5 mins at a time alone some while fussing because obviously with twins you cant hold them all the time, but I sure wish I could! They go to my mother in laws who lives next door to me for about 5 hours a day while hubby works b/c hubby works 12 hours a day and I am pretty weak and sick and cannot do it all alone. I have to sleep or run errands or go to drs. It was hard for me to get used to this but now I have let go and realised I need help and she is very AP she understands my feelings and respects them totally. I am not finding this as hard as a singleton. Seriously. I mean its more work but i find I am less stressed with two than with one, I guess b/c I can cut myself some slack with everything. I dont know. I am looking forward to them realising each other. They really do not l ike to touch each other or be near each other so we got problems lol.

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thats B

post #27 of 40
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mine have been developing very differently

my girl who was born first but smaller she is farther along in neuro type stuff, first to make eye contact, lift head, is trying to roll over, my son though was larger and first to learn to nurse and now is a lot bigger but still a bit floppier and less vocal
 

 



my girl, baby A was smaller but only by 7 oz, she now is smaller by probably more that 2 pounds, though both have gained weight great and eat a ton, she maybe even eats more lately, so even though they are in the same size order they always have been they are certainly growing a very different rates

and my smaller one is the more "developed" one, which is always interesting

 

 

 

i think in general we notice so much more about milestones and personality because we have something to compare it to all the time, how much might we never really think about if we did not have their twin laying right next to them , doing something different? its one of the joys of twins for me, but also probably cause me to analyze things more than i might with just one


yah, i get that. i do. i mean, the fact they're gaining and have plenty of wet/poopy diapers says enough for me. i guess its just a metabolism thing, ya know? they're drinking the same milk at roughly the same times and for the same length.

 

my "smaller" one (i say that because while she was smaller at birth is now the chunky one...haha) is definitely the more developed one. she was lifting her head at birth...she's firey! her sister is far more laid back and pensive, only pipes up when absolutely necessary...sleeps longer, etc.

 

i also love that about twins...

 

last night, hubs and i had a 'date' where a friend came to watch the toddlers, the teen had a school function and we took the newbs out to a restaurant...oddly enough the woman who sat us is a triplet mom, and a woman who ended up seated right next to us with her mother, is ALSO a trip mom...haha! she was so nice, reached out and wanted my email address...hers are 19mo, g/g/b...she said her boy is the crazy one and the one that keeps her on her toes and i said to her...well i guess its good there's only ONE like that...haha. that's how i feel about my girls...i love how they're different...and one is only slightly more demanding than the other...but its a good mix, im surprised by the ease we've taken to them...i really expected it to be a lot harder with all the stories i heard...tho, my toddlers are crying and fighting in the next room i imagine it will soon get more interesting.

 

post #28 of 40

Hello all. blowkiss.gif

 

annettemarie , we cloth diaper pretty much out of neccessity these day.  Our 4 year old is autistic and rarly uses the toliet and our 2 year old had a potty set back after bringing the boys home.  I added it up one day and we would be paying a minimum of $250 a month just in diapers alone if we were using disposable.

 

I think my boys... for lack of a better way to say it may end up being a set of those "creepy" type twins.  They are slowly but surly acting more and more like each other, Connor has gotten more fierce and Seamus more laid back so that they are about even in temperment now.  They are constantly on the eye for each other.  Get very upset if you seperate them, they have to at least be able to see each other and so far they are developmently the same.  There was a pretty big size gap when they were first born (ttts) but that gap keeps getting smaller and smaller.  They are both the same length now and only about a pound difference in each other.  I swear if Seamus gets more hair I will start getting paranoid about mixing them up.redface.gif

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Does anyone else have baby twins like that right now?

 

As far as accidently hitting each other when they are together they did that some when they were younger but not so much.  But they do chew on each others hands a lot.

 

I love seeing pictures of all your twins on here it helps me feel better knowing that I am not the only one going through the crazy sleepless land that is infanthood with multiples when I see your pics. grouphug.gif

 

Cute story from the other night.  Connor was having a hard time falling asleep and then ended up rolling over grabbing Seamus' arm and pulling it to his chest like a teddy bear and fell fast alseep.  I love moments like that.heartbeat.gif

post #29 of 40

There was a 1 lb. 11 oz. weight difference at birth and that has increased to 3 lb. difference.  It's been about a 3 lb. difference since 2 months.  The girls have been on a consistent growth curve.  "Big girl" is in 75-90th percentile for height and weight and "Smaller" girl is in 10-25th percentile.  That being said at the beginning I thought the smaller girl was developmentally behind but I'm finding they are very close.. and sometimes she does things first... she is small but fiesty and I think because she is smaller she can move her body weight more easily.

 

I haven't noticed the "creepy behaviour" but they really see each other noe and interact, 

post #30 of 40

I regret my choice of words above. lol

It was late and I just couldnt think of the "right" word.  I hope you guys got what I was trying to say.  Major case of mommy brain the other night. nut.gif

post #31 of 40
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I regret my choice of words above. lol

It was late and I just couldnt think of the "right" word.  I hope you guys got what I was trying to say.  Major case of mommy brain the other night. nut.gif



i totally got it. i wonder if my girls will ever be creepy. they seem so different from one another already.

post #32 of 40

Hi All,

 

Great thread- I'm excited to join in!

 

My boys Sebastian and Mateo were born at 36 weeks- they are # 3 and four and were mono/di.What has surprised me so far is how different they are and have been from their first days- and that I am actually making it through each day!

 

 

post #33 of 40
The babies had their 4-month checkups yesterday. Matthew is 13 pounds and Molly is 15!!! But Matty is an inch longer. lol.gif They're so sweet and dear.
post #34 of 40
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The babies had their 4-month checkups yesterday. Matthew is 13 pounds and Molly is 15!!! But Matty is an inch longer. lol.gif They're so sweet and dear.


Wow!  They are big!!  My girls are 13 lbs at 5 1/2 months :-)

post #35 of 40
Hi Mamas, I'm Shana and I had Anthony and Vincent on 5.21.10 at 30 w 5 d. They were 3-2 and 3-5 respectively when born. A is 5 minutes older (big bro!) They are identical (got the DNA test done), but were di-di. So they are 10 mos old now, 8 mos adjusted.

They discovered each other around 5 mos (3 adjusted). They would sort of grab at each others shirts or bibs. Before that they were totally oblivious. They'd whack each other in the face with their flaily arms and not even blink.

DH was afraid that we'd have the creepy kind of twins, and he got his wish lol! Yeah, they sit in the same position - its most apparent when next to each other in the stroller, lie in the same position, wake up at the same time (sometimes). Theyve been the exact same developmentally. And always within a few oz of each other. Their differences are very subtle. You have to know what to look for.

Although, in the last week they've each learned a new trick - A is starting to clap, and V is smacking his lips, making a popping sound. They each do their tricks constantly.

Another diff is that V got teeth first, about two weeks ahead of A. Now V has 2 top and 2 bottom teeth, and A has just the two bottom ones.
post #36 of 40

Hi!  I'm joining late here.  My boys (#2 & #3 - we also have a 2.5 yo DD) were born Nov 9 2010, at 35.5 weeks gestation.  They were di/di, and I think they are fraternal, but everyone else thinks they are identical.  We haven't tested them.  My partner carried them, and had one loooong difficult vaginal birth and one c-section.  They are Edward (born 5lb 11oz, now about 14lbs) and Benjamin (born 6lb 11oz now about 14.5lbs).  They spent 9 days total in the hospital, with the last 4 in the NICU because of severe dehydration.  We put them on formula at that point, and spent the next 3 months doing basically nothing but trying to make breastfeeding work, which didn't happen.  It was a big surprise to us, because I am still nursing our older DD and DP gave birth, so we thought between us we'd have plenty of milk!!   

 

Anyhow, our boys haven't really noticed each other yet, other than an occasional smile.  I've been so surprised at how well DD does with them.  She is so kind and loving with them, and doesn't resent them at all for all the attention she's lost since their arrival.  She's become quite a handful for the rest of us (attention getting behavior) but loves her brothers to the moon and back.  It's super sweet!  We're doing cloth too, and I love it!  I had to wait until they were about 4wks old and had gained enough weight to fit a newborn diaper, but I was so happy to make the switch.  Especially with the unexpected cost of formula, my budget really appreciates not spending enormous amounts on 'sposies. 

 

We're cosleeping with them and have been very happy with that.  They go to sleep each with a head on one of DP's shoulders, so sweet.  After the first feed, I sleep with one and she sleeps with the other. 

 

Mine seem to be developing together.  They have growth spurts together, wake at the same time, get cranky at the same time. This can be good, or it can be awful, depending on the moment!!    They're really laid back, sweet boys though.  Maybe they are identical... lol time will tell, I suppose!

post #37 of 40

Gotta post some pics ... I was going to just post an early one and a recent one, but I kind of couldn't stop myself from adding more... 

 

May 2010, a couple days old:

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July 2010, constantly had to be swaddled for the first few months:

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August, 2010, a little "Charlie bit my finger" moment:

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October 2010, about when they were first discovering each other:

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January 2011, all dressed up!

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St. Patrick's Day:

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post #38 of 40
  • Name? SMURFETTE winky.gif
  • You and maybe your partners age at the birth? 34, 32
  • Are the babies Mono or Di? DI/DI
  • What number of kids will is be for you? 2 & 3
  • Genders? TWO GIRLS, ONE WOMB
  • Date of Delivery? EDD: 3/31/11 - WENT INTO LABOR 3/12/11 - BORN 3/13/11
  • State you live in? CALIFORNIA
  •  Anything else you want to share? WE HAVE A 15 Y/O "TEENBABY"
  • What surprises you about your twins? THEY ARE SO ALERT AND LOVE WALKING AROUND THE HOUSE, LOOKING AT EVERYTHING

 

Total soap opera with this pregnancy. I suffer from a long and irregular mens. cycle (32-45 days) so there's no telling when I ovulate. My original EDD was MAY 27, 2011. Then it was changed to MAY 11, 2011. As I entered my 3rd tri - their measurements were recalculated and my date was moved up an entire month to APRIL 19, 2011 (40 wks). My planned c-section was MARCH 31, 2011. I started dialating MARCH 4, 2011 (no pain, no BH). When I dialated to 7 cm, my doc told me I was in the "hot zone". Baby A was still in negative station so I was told to take it easy, no bed rest, just slow down. Doc predicted a fast and hard labor. Active labor was a little over 4 hours, my water broke 40 minutes into the start of contractions. Baby A & B were both vertex and ready to go however Baby A switched a few days earlier to Baby B so Baby "A" is actually Baby "B". Petty detail but you twin mommies will understand. Born 40 mins apart, they were both a few grams under 6 lbs, 17 inches. They entered the world kicking and screaming with high scores. Taken immediately to NICU because of their gestational age (34w) - I was informed that Baby A wasn't feeding and needed to be intubated. Baby B had no trouble nursing. Once we got Baby A sucking - I was discharged on Tuesday and hubby and I stayed in family center for families with newborns in the NIC. Both girls were discharged the following day after a throughout once over with a new gestational age of 36w 4d. My OB did not deliver my girls. He wasn't even informed that I was in labor because I was scheduled for a c-section and that was that... I guess. He just happened to poke his head into our room the next day to say hi to my Suitemate, whose baby he'd delivered 36 hours earlier.

 

That was another thing that pissed me off. I am self employed and pay my own group insurance for me and my employees. It's GREAT insurance. I chose my particular hospital because I'd delivered my daughter there 15 yrs prior and had a wonderful experience. This time it just so happened my intimate baby retreat was completely booked that weekend and I was put into a semi-private room. It sucked. My Suitemate had a huge family with many young children who stayed all night. We shared a bathroom (including a toilet). I couldn't stand it after a couple of hours and would hike to the public restroom down the hall. The nurses took pity on me and I was given a key to a private toilet on the floor. I spent most of my time in the NIC anyway trying to get Sophia to nurse.  I was so jealous that Suitemate could wheel her baby in and out whenever she pleased and since I was in Bed A, all of her guests would have to pass by me when they entered the room. We had no privacy whatsoever. My entire birthing plan was shot out the window. I laugh now but it seemed very important to me at the time. My Suitemate and I plan to get together next week for a newborn reunion.

 

When the girls were a few days old, I had a huge plate of broccoli that seemed to upset their poor tummies. Colic rang our doorbell and I got really depressed. I was so uncomfortable during my pregnancy. I thought being preg with twins I'd have lots of time to do my favorite past time: sleep. But I couldn't sleep more than 3-4 hours at a time. Between urinating and babies leaning on my organs, I was confined to the house. And when the due date kept changing, I was very anxious and felt ill-prepared. I tried to enjoy my pregnancy but I can truly say I did not. :( But Sophia and Grace are here now and just as silly and klutzy as me and I wouldn't change a thing. Hubby and I have made so many mistakes along the way, even getting the girls mixed up but we're just rolling with it. Our family is complete.

 

Sorry for the long story! Wait, did I post in the wrong thread?

post #39 of 40
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Welcome to twinafantcy smurfette! Sounds like you are adjusting pretty well to the curveballs
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Welcome to twinafantcy smurfette! Sounds like you are adjusting pretty well to the curveballs

Curveballs indeed. I came prepared to play Monopoly and instead we're playing Twister! twins.gif Thanks for the welcome!

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