Anyone waiting to tell?

[willsmomm]

I am TERRIBLE at keeping secrets but nobody's going to be real impressed that we are pregnant again (hubby's in school full time, working part time) so we want to keep it under our hats for as long as possible. We've waited to tell in the past too but still, was like torture being at my mom's today and not spilling the good news. I tell her everything!

I desperately want to tell my friends the good news too but it just isn't time. We want to hold out until July but we'll see. I usually get pretty sick and get round pretty early.

How do you hold your tongue? Any tips I could use?

[CDsMom1031]

I told my family and friends.

But I'm terrified to make it public on Facebook. I'm afraid of "jinxing" it.

Everytime I get ready to tell, I freak myself out.

You could try that? LOL!

[Xerxella]

We're waiting until the ultrasound at 11 weeks, which is end of April.  I could never wait to July!  I'm already wearing baggy clothes and feel like I'm showing! 

But, this is what I do to not tell.  I focus on the internal joy of having a happy secret that nobody knows about.  Instead of focusing on how much you want to tell them, focus on how nice it is to have a surprise that your about to spring on them.  Like waiting for a friend's surprise party. 

It feels special to have something wonderful that is just your own.  And, you don't have to share it. 

Like having a special something (like a one of a kind pair of earrings) that no one else has and you're waiting for the perfect moment to wear them.  Works for me. 

[PinkPeony]

We told only my brother because he and I are very close, but we haven't told any other family.  It hasn't been the most solid  start and I'm not sure if we're going to make it. So we aren't saying anything until we know more. It's hard to feel so conflicted when all I should feel is happy and thrilled. Good luck with your special secret! 

[willsmomm]

Thanks for the thoughts! Yeah, we're going to be around all the family today and I'm afraid I'm going to bite through my tongue trying to keep quiet. lol

I will try to enjoy having a secret! Good idea!

[carrieb26]

It's hard not to tell!

We usually don't tell anyone IRL until about 12 weeks. 

In the past, we've devised a fun or cute way to share the news with parents.I think with #1 we just called on the phone, but with #2, I got a big sister shirt for the girl, took some photos and had her makes some cards for her grandparents.  They all got the cards about the same time.  It was a fun thing to do.

Instead of telling now, this time I'm trying to come up with the next "fun" thing to do.

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[TashiMomo]

Hi I'm new here!  I think I will probably end up with a December delivery, even though I'm "due" in November.  But there's no December thread yet, so I figured I'd hang out here.  

We're expecting our first - and we were going to wait a bit longer to tell people, but... I guess I'm just surrounded by highly intuitive people.  The two weeks before I found out I was pregnant, 5 different people either asked if or told me I was pregnant.  Like, out of the blue.  I wasn't complaining of fatigue or nausea or anything... so, by the time I tested and knew for sure, I had a little group of folks who already expected the news.  Has that happened to anyone else?  It was rather bizarre!  

So we've told our close friends and family.  We're waiting until 13 weeks or so to make anything public on our website or Facebook, though.  

But a few relatives already posted stuff on Facebook- then I had to call them and let them know we're TRYING to keep it hush-hush.  This is harder than I thought!  They're so excited to share the news, too.  It's the first grandchild/niece or nephew for them, so everyone is dying to share the news.  I appreciate the enthusiasm...I'd just like to wait a while longer!

[CDsMom1031]

I totally had this happen to me. 3 people told me I was pregnant before I found out. Since then, I've had 3 people ask me because they can "tell" my the glow on my face and my bloat. LOL So much for a secret.
 

Originally Posted by TashiMomo 

Hi I'm new here!  I think I will probably end up with a December delivery, even though I'm "due" in November.  But there's no December thread yet, so I figured I'd hang out here.  

We're expecting our first - and we were going to wait a bit longer to tell people, but... I guess I'm just surrounded by highly intuitive people.  The two weeks before I found out I was pregnant, 5 different people either asked if or told me I was pregnant.  Like, out of the blue.  I wasn't complaining of fatigue or nausea or anything... so, by the time I tested and knew for sure, I had a little group of folks who already expected the news.  Has that happened to anyone else?  It was rather bizarre!  

So we've told our close friends and family.  We're waiting until 13 weeks or so to make anything public on our website or Facebook, though.  

But a few relatives already posted stuff on Facebook- then I had to call them and let them know we're TRYING to keep it hush-hush.  This is harder than I thought!  They're so excited to share the news, too.  It's the first grandchild/niece or nephew for them, so everyone is dying to share the news.  I appreciate the enthusiasm...I'd just like to wait a while longer!

[Gemini529]

I've told family and only a few close friends.  One of my friends just lost her baby at full term so I feel like it's just not a good time to break this kind of news (we aren't super close, but I consider her a friend).  I don't know how everyone will take it since they are all grieving for our other friend.  And I don't know how I'm going to tell her. Also, my sister is TTC, too and I think everyone wanted her to be pregnant with her first before I got pregnant with my second.  Sooo, it's not like people wouldn't be happy for me, but there are definitely some raw nerves that I will need to be gentle with.  

I think I'll wait until around 12 weeks to really tell people.