Thanks everyone for the responses. I normally would not even be asking this as I was struggling with my own sexuality as I was not allowed to even say the word sex growing up and was taught it was evil. I am only now changing my ways and have purchased sex books as a way to finally overcome my issues. I realized that the way I was raised thinking that sex was evil and the only sex book my parents had I found and read and it was thrown out right when they found out. I don't want my kids to grow up thinking that sex is evil and now I don't even know what to teach. I don't have playboy magazines but more like books called Aphrodites Daughters - a book about womens empowerment spiritually through sexuality. It has no pictures but it does have some pretty descriptive stories through the whole book. Or another book about womens anatomy of arousal and it mainly has pictures of a womans vagina not a totally sexy picture book. Should a kid even see this? I don't want my kids to grow up like I did and want my dd especially to be proud of her womanhood someday. I don't want to pull the books out one day when the kids are 16 and say "surprise!" A whole other world you don't know about.
I grew up in a religion that stifled women (imo) and alllllll sexuality. The only things I read about sex as a teen were church pamphlets about how horrible 'unpure' thoughts were, and how masturbation would send you right to hell.
Now that we are grown and getting married, I hear about friends going to the Dr to be "stretched" for their husbands ( :0 <- face of horror) and how some are incapable of intercourse because they tighten up and make sex impossible and at the best painful. THEN people think there must be something wrong or going on because they have been married X ammt of time and they don't have children.
It's a hot mess. I DON'T want my children to be like this. But I remember an experience from my childhood that kinda... stuck with me in a very big way. I think being unable process the experience (a friend 'humping' a stuffed animal, so not abuse ;)) coupled with the view my religion put on sexuality gave me a big stumbling block in figuring out my own sexuality.
But I don't know what to do :) I don't know if it's better to have books out, or what books to leave out. I wish there was a good rule!