I'm hoping for any help here. My son sleeps with us and we have been firm believers in AP and bedsharing. However, two big things have thrown us: we weren't able to breastfeed (4 months of trying, then 12 months of pumping and receiving donor milk), and DS simply doesn't STTN. He still bottle-feeds and does most of it during the night. Sometimes as much as 24 oz. A LC friend said this is way more than he would be getting at night if nursing.
I work and handle the nighttime parenting because DP can't take it. When I reach the end of my rope, DP may take the night shift but it never goes well. DP is also a SAH dad so he handles most of the daytime parenting.
We have a routine for naptime and nighttime, and keep the times consistent, which does seem to help the falling asleep. But nothing helps the staying asleep. We try to make sure he's getting enough food and water and is plenty full at bedtime. Doesn't seem to make a difference.
DS will only go back to sleep with a bottle, or sometimes getting up and rocking him or walking around. Patting, talking, shooshing, cuddling ... these don't work.
Today DP said it's time to "Ferberize." This idea horrifies me and makes me physically sick to even think about. I'd like to at least take DS to the doctor and rule out any physical issues first, then perhaps try Dr. Gordon's night-weaning method and/or Dr. Sears' "water down the bottle" method.
I simply can't go on this way. The sleep deprivation is affecting all areas of my life, including my ability to enjoy my son.
Any thoughts? Thanks so much for your help.