Parenting with a husband who has Asperger's - Page 3

[Xavismom]

I just ran across this thread randomly, and I could NOT BE ANY HAPPIER to have found it!! My DH does not have aspergers, but is high functioning NOS. I don't have the time right at this minute, but when it allows I will be reading this thread in its entirety, and joining in.

Seriously happy to have found this!
 

[amberskyfire]

Originally Posted by Xavismom 

I just ran across this thread randomly, and I could NOT BE ANY HAPPIER to have found it!! My DH does not have aspergers, but is high functioning NOS. I don't have the time right at this minute, but when it allows I will be reading this thread in its entirety, and joining in.

Seriously happy to have found this!
 

Xavismom, there is a Parenting With an Aspergers Partner group here. You should join! http://www.mothering.com/community/groups/show/28/parenting-with-an-aspergers-partner

[myk]

i just wanted to say, please don't give up on your husband. i very probably have aspergers - i scored 43/50 on the baron-cohen screening test where 32 is "high risk". i know i have a lot of deficits and i'm very hard to live with but i love my family and i'm sure your husband does too. it sounds like you are committed to him and just are having some trouble with the hurdles he's facing. encourage him to seek medical treatment/therapies - Risperidone helps me immensely - and just work with what you've got. hang in there.

[amberskyfire]

Originally Posted by myk 

i just wanted to say, please don't give up on your husband. i very probably have aspergers - i scored 43/50 on the baron-cohen screening test where 32 is "high risk". i know i have a lot of deficits and i'm very hard to live with but i love my family and i'm sure your husband does too. it sounds like you are committed to him and just are having some trouble with the hurdles he's facing. encourage him to seek medical treatment/therapies - Risperidone helps me immensely - and just work with what you've got. hang in there.

He won't take anything and that's perfectly fine with me, but he has gotten so much better with a little work. Our son is now 8 months old and he does very well with him. I have him watch the baby while I cook and take showers and DH seems to really like the baby most of the time. DS LOVES his dad which I think helps a lot. He cries when I walk near DH and don't hand him over to him. DD wasn't like that at all. She clung to me for dear life, so DH never was able to form any kind of bond with her.

[DaughterOfKali]

I am a single mom but ds's father has Asperger's (so does my son.)  When his father is around, it's a nightmare.  It has gotten to the point where my son's neuropsych has officially stated that ds's father can't be alone with ds.  He just doesn't do a good job at parenting and loses his temper all the time (not hitting.)

My son has other medical conditions so he gets sick quite often.  This means, I can't work outside the home.  So, financial hardship makes life unpleasant.  I also homeschool at the moment because ds was traumatized at school (we are meeting with the school to discuss an out of district placement but I'll be hugely surprised if they agree.)

So, I'm with ds 24/7.  It's exhausting.  And having to act like a parent to his father when he is visiting makes me angry.  He refuses to get help.  He admits that he has Asperger's but won't do anything to try to learn to deal with it.

I feel your pain!