Experience, ideas, opinions, suggestions, all welcome... I need help figuring out what to do and I'm on limited time. I really tried to make this as short as possible, lol.
I'm in my old state selling my home. I've been here for a few months. A previous neighbor had a mainly indoor cat who looks and acts VERY much like a Ragamuffin breed which is an offshoot of Ragdoll breed, which are both known for their non-aggressive personalities and most will not fight, even in self defense. (One neighbor told me this was a Maine Coon, so if you read that in another post, this is the cat I'm talking about, but upon researching, he is not a MC cat.)
The previous owners removed his collar and put him outside in our neighborhood and then moved away and left him to find food. Our neighborhood is a bird sanctuary (city declared) and is a forest area, so I guess they figured he'd find food. But, this cat has since attached itself to me and my house. It had fleas that I've treated and was looking a little rough, so I've been letting him sleep inside and I've been brushing him, giving him love and food/water, etc. I've asked around to try to find him a forever home here in the neighborhood but no one wants a cat. I could and would take him with me, but it's to an apartment in a large metro city with a high outdoor cat (indoor/outdoor too) mortality rate due to crazy poisoning people, coyotes, traffic, stray dogs & cats, disease, parasites, awful traps, etc.
EDIT - I would love to take him, the reason that I would consider leaving him is all about him. If he has to fly, become indoor or leash walking, live with a dog, be removed from the neighborhood that he knows, etc. I would hate to get there and then have him constantly trying to escape or be totally unhappy or depressed. I'd feel like I did the wrong thing. If I knew that he'd adapt and be happy to be with me, I'd not even have the question. I have the resources and am able and willing to work with him to leash walk, etc. Just don't know if that's selfish thinking on my part, yk? Ideas/experiences very welcome!
If I take him it involves a 6 hour flight (I'd take him in-cabin, but it'd still probably be stressful), a major lifestyle change for the cat as it'd have to learn to walk on a leash if he wants to ever go outdoors, he'd have to learn to be fine with my dog (nice dog but still a dog), and he's at least 2-3 years old so what if he doesn't get passed this great forest area? Will he get depressed if I take him? I'm trying hard not to get attached. I know that loving a being means doing the best thing for that being, not necessarily always what you want to do.
If he stays here, he may not live long and will probably have fleas within a few months again, if no one else comes along to take him in and love him. He's super chill and there are raccoons and opossums in this neighborhood, I see them every night. Along with a few stray dogs that chase the cats, I see those dogs about once a week around my house here. I read that outdoor cats have an average life span of less than 5 years and indoor cats have around 15 year life span. It would be tough to drive away knowing that statistic.
Ugh. Thx for reading if you made it this far! So, which is more humane... to leave him or to take him with me. I leave in less than a month. Help please??