Yes, Shayinme, we do sound alike. I did short term missions from the ages of 15-26 (with Teen Mania, YWAM and Calvary Chapel...primarily to Russia), my Dad was an Assistant Pastor (of a Calvary Chapel, which you may know is very sola scriptura), etc.
And yes, the scariest ideas are many paths leading to God and the Bible not being infallible Word of God. But a couple things are giving me peace about those things. I realized that the Bible is INSPIRED, not infallible, that scripture REVEALS God but does not contain Him (I doubt canonization could contain God), that the words of Jesus hold far more weight than the words of Paul, a human being (notice how Jesus focuses very little on theology and focuses on just "loving the Lord God with all your heart and your neighbor as yourself"/the Kingdom of God...while Christians waste a lot of time debating the theological teachings/opinions of Paul?).
Also, happy you joined Bluebirdmama1. I must sadly confess I've been in evangelical circles that have discussions and teaching on why LDS and Jehovah's Witnesses are cults. The more I've got to personally know LDS and JW over the years, the more I've found that most of them have just as a real of a relationship with Jesus as I do. Sure, some doctrine might be skewed. But as DH has been saying for years and I am just accepting is, "if it required correct doctrine to be saved, then no one could be saved.". I also like how you mentioned that you no longer have to "fight your gifts". Since releasing the idea of sola scriptura I am now over the "wives submit to your husbands" and " a woman should be silent.(in church)" passages....I am fully free to be who I am spiritually and not try to be spiritually inferior to DH. I am the type who is in tune with the Spirit, I've prophesied, "speak in tongues", have experienced intense prayer, healings, etc. DH has a much more intellectual relationship with God and isn't "spirit filled". I used to think I had to not get ahead of him (he was in no way holding me back, he is supportive of me being my own person), let him "lead". But I realized recently we have TOTALLY different spiritual giftings, and that is to be embraced and pursued and support each other in, and not for me to somehow step in line behind him.
Same goes for Islam. I watched Malcom X recently and was struck by the very real conversion experience he had when traveling to Mecca..solely to worship Allah with his brothers. Stripped down from the doctrine he knew, just experiencing God in the context of community. I don't doubt he experienced God. DH and I were discussing the other day how when Jesus said in John 14:16, "I am a the way, the truth and the life, no one comes to the Father except through me". I DOESN'T say one doesn't "get into heaven" this way. It simply says they only experience the FATHER this way. There are many aspects to God's character, many unsearchable. One thing Jesus provides that other religions do not is to know the FATHER personally. Islam allows to experience the holiness of Allah, Judaism the holiness of Yahweh, Buddhism the life of "god" in all things, Hinduism the many even scary facets of gods/God, but no where else do you experience the Father. Many of our ideas about heaven and hell are fabricated, Jesus teaches about the Kingdom of God on EARTH as it is in heaven... not "pray this prayer" and "be saved".
Well, that's my tangent for the day...since I am in a safe place to share these thoughts. If I pasted this so my family and friends could see...well that would be interesting.
Anyways, bless you all on your journey to know God/Jesus!