The thing is, with my DD we didn't find out the sex ahead of time, and our "in case of boy" plan WAS to circ, because at that time I hadn't read much of anything, and DH wanted it for all the usual mainstream DH reasons (to look like him, because it's just what "everyone" does, etc, i.e. nothing based on any real evidence.) Plus, our CPM at the time recommended it, and gave us the name of a "good" doctor who used a special clamp, etc. Blah, blah, blah...
Well, THIS TIME around I have been reading here on MDC, on websites, etc, and I feel pretty strongly that I do not want to circ our boy. When we found out our LO is a boy, I mentioned to DH that we have some "big issues" to discuss since he's a boy. DH's response-- "Can't we just enjoy this for a while? Let's not talk about that stuff right now."
And you can guess that he has NEVER brought anything up about it since. DH hasn't been very involved in this pregnancy anyway, hasn't read any birth stuff, etc. He does come to prenatals with me, and wants to know, in general, that I am healthy and so is the baby, but that's about it. I don't plan to count on him for labor support, even though he says he "needs to be there with me every second", internally I am thinking "for what?" because he's not very in tune with me now anyway.
So...I'm sure I have a battle on my hands today and am NOT looking forward to it. I wanted to get him to read something and come to HIS OWN conclusion, but I think hearing me tell the CNM "absolutely no circ" is going to be pretty clear to him that he's not a part of the decision.