I just say back "oh, I am planning 6 more" and they usually might say something, but I just nod that I do plan on it.
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I'm sorry, because that is unbelievably rude. Â I think I too would be in the "oh my, why ever not??" camp. Â Ugh.
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My parents had eight children (I am the oldest), and people would often come up to ME and ask "oooh, do you like having so many siblings? so is this the last one? are your parents going to have more kids???"  Um, I DON'T KNOW, probably because I don't have an intimate knowledge of my parents' love life....... 
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I hate that. I also have four kids, and I really would like to have one or two more. I have no idea why in the heck people think it's appropriate to comment or say it's plenty, etc., what is it to them? I'm not asking anyone else to parent these kids. I can't imagine saying anything negative at all about the number of kids someone has, whether it's one or eight. So rude! I sometimes wonder if people are jealous, in a weird way. Even if they themselves could never imagine more than two kids, maybe somewhere inside they wish they had the patience, finances, desire to have a bigger family. I dunno.Â
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I told my dad, and he said it is likely because we do such a good job with the kids, and make it look easy, that it is actually an issue of the person making the comment feeling intimidated and less than subconsciously. I think he may have a point, and it was cool to have him pay me such a nice compliment! But I agree, I should have just said, "Well, we don't even have enough for a basketball team, so we'll have to keep going!"
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I think I would be tempted to reply "did you really just say that?"
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This explains why people are starting to bug me about having more! DS just turned 3 and I'm not pregnant, nor do I have any intention of becoming pregnant any time soon. My parents were bugging me about it a couple of weeks ago... they NEVER bugged us about getting pregnant even before I was preggers with DS... why do they have to start now? Bleh!
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Ok-- this may offend some people and I apologize if it does. We are hispanic and when someone says this (or more often, implies it) I point out that the hispanic birthrate is the highest of any other group in the US and that eventually we will outnumber everyone else
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I also find that people are ALWAYS asking me about having more/being done, etc. I thought it was just because I'm such an easy going and approachable-seeming person, but after reading this thread I guess not
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So when I had 2 (boy and girl, 2.5 years apart) I guess everyone assumed I was done and nobody asked. But when I had my third it's like I'm building a baby army all of a sudden, lol. People I hardly know seem to think it's perfectly alright to ask "when is the fourth coming?", "are you done NOW?", "so how many more you gonna have" and my all-time favorite "when is your hubby going to get fixed?". Like, HELLO? My husband's fertility status should not be the topic of conversation, it weirds me out.
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I think it's the human instinct of constantly comparing to others, maybe a bit of subversive competition... or people are just nosy and rude, i don't know.
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ooh Angie #4, I'm excited... can't say I'll be joining you this time though. LOL
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I don't know why perfect strangers feel the need to make these sorts of comments. If you only have 1 kid, people are always asking when you're going to have more (because one can't possibly be enough). But 4 is "too many"? What's the perfect number for drawing no comments...2?
I have 2 boys. We were unable to have any more after the boys, though we desperately wanted more. I can't tell you how many times someone has said to me "Oh, you really need to have a little girl" or "When are you going to have more?"Â
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I don't know why perfect strangers feel the need to make these sorts of comments. If you only have 1 kid, people are always asking when you're going to have more (because one can't possibly be enough). But 4 is "too many"? What's the perfect number for drawing no comments...2?
Yes, and they need to be a boy and a girl and exactly 2.5 years apart.

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when I got pregnant with my first I had a friend tell me that I wasn't ready to be a mother and that I would be a bad mother. When I had # 2 (a 2nd daughter) I had people apolagize to us because we were having another girl. Also people asking if we knew how it happened, if we were done, and asking us not to have any more. When we got pregnant the third time peopel repeatedly told us they hoped it woul dbe a boy this time IN FRONT OF MY DAUGHTERS. When we found out it was a girl again peopel apolagized and said other mean spirited things to the point that my one daughter wanted to become a boy. They also again told us we should stop having kids.
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People can be asses, I just ignore them mostly, but if they say things in front of the girls I respond so the girls know that they are wanted (and actually exactly what we wanted, both hubs and I wanted 3 girls) and to let the rude people know that they are being rude and hurtful.
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I couldn't get the quote to include the one you quoted, but yeah. I had a girl and then 2 years later a boy. I swear people assumed #3 was an accident. How could I not be done when I had the "perfect" amount of children? What is ideal for some couples is not ideal for others. Obviously, I wasn't and wouldn't have been content with just those two (love my first two so much I guess I wanted more like them!). People are so rude, and weird. I know they then figured we weren't trying for #4 as well, except that we were... and if we end up with #5, it will be the same thing. DH and I know what causes babies, thankyouverymuch, and I always knew I'd likely have a big family. I don't get what it matters to anyone else.Â
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