"Don't have any more kids, please!" - Page 12

[hippiemom85]

Originally Posted by waiting2bemommy 

This is so true. And beyond just the birth itself, everyone I know who thinks raising kids is sooo easy pretty much does not care beyond the basic feeding, clothing and keeping alive of their children. I ended a friendship over that attitude. she just doesn't want to be bothered with them at ALL. But she continues to get pregnant (with somebody who announced in front of 15 people "I f-ing hate kids.") It's people like that who give a bad name to moms of many kids who really are hands on with their kids and are raising them selflessly.

If you do it right, or at least TRY to do it right, it is LOTS of work. Definitely not selfish!

i have ABSOLUTELY NOT NOT NOT stated that having children is EASY!, but it is selfish none the less, when choosing to bring life to this earth you are adding yet another mouth that needs to be fed, get a education, and a meaningful or at least decent job! this decision is (IMO) is not being thought of critically enough. Are you guys at all aware of what is going on in the world???? turn on NPR for one hour, listen to it in the background or something, I think miss education is to blame for this type of thinking. Our kids are going to have a REALLY hard time growing up, and we need to do all we can to make it a little easier for them.

if I can't properly convey my thoughts on line w/o you guys thinking I either hate children or whatever else, it really doesn't matter anymore because you guys feel the way you're gonna feel.

I would like to mention that your story about your ex-friend is a perfect example of people who should stop procreating. IMO of course

Okay I'm done now

[kawa kamuri]

Originally Posted by hippiemom85 

I think miss education is to blame for this type of thinking. 

[hippiemom85]

Originally Posted by kawa kamuri 

wow you're slick, you got me, i'm miseducated, ignore EVERYTHING ive said

[Drummer's Wife]

hippiemom85 - it's kind of interesting to hear you say having a kid is selfish after reading the thread you stared below about how challenging it is to care for your toddler.  Obviously, it's very self-less, especially if you want to do so in a way that meets all of his needs, right?  You also said you want to give him a sibling, but are having a hard time figuring out how you would be able to manage that.

If your biggest concern is overpopulation and how awful the world is, that is fine, as it is your opinion.  Just realize that others look at it differently.  Yes, we are having more than one or two children that will then take up space on this planet, but they will also be contributing greatly, too. 

[hippiemom85]

Originally Posted by Drummer's Wife 

If your biggest concern is overpopulation and how awful the world is, that is fine, as it is your opinion.  Just realize that others look at it differently.  Yes, we are having more than one or two children that will then take up space on this planet, but they will also be contributing greatly, too. 

yes,  i hope so

[annettemarie]

Originally Posted by kawa kamuri 

[annettemarie]

Originally Posted by hippiemom85 

I wandered into the thread, yes, I didn't realize that MDC was only for people who wanted to heard their own voice echoed back to them. I think there are other ways of conveying an opion such as "no more kids please" , it IS rude,  but it is a thought I've had on several occasions.

Not so much an echo chamber, but it does help to consider your audience. Maybe a new thread so people who want to put the energy into the discussion can, and leave this thread for those of us wondering how to deal with rude, unsolicited advice instead of adding rude unsolicited advice of your own?

[kawa kamuri]

Originally Posted by hippiemom85 

wow you're slick, you got me, i'm miseducated, ignore EVERYTHING ive said

Lady, today is my EDD with baby #6. As much as I'd love to have a battle of wits with a stranger on the internet I....don't. Nothing personal, it's just not my job or desire to engage anyone in negativity. I was being cheeky. 

[hippiemom85]

Originally Posted by kawa kamuri 

Lady, today is my EDD with baby #6. As much as I'd love to have a battle of wits with a stranger on the internet I....don't. Nothing personal, it's just not my job or desire to engage anyone in negativity. I was being cheeky. 

wow, blessings in your direction (no cheekiness)

[hippiemom85]

Originally Posted by annettemarie 

Originally Posted by hippiemom85 

I wandered into the thread, yes, I didn't realize that MDC was only for people who wanted to heard their own voice echoed back to them. I think there are other ways of conveying an opion such as "no more kids please" , it IS rude,  but it is a thought I've had on several occasions.

Not so much an echo chamber, but it does help to consider your audience. Maybe a new thread so people who want to put the energy into the discussion can, and leave this thread for those of us wondering how to deal with rude, unsolicited advice instead of adding rude unsolicited advice of your own?

okay, you're right, I was just trying to show another side to it, but I shouldn't have
 

[momfosampson]

Originally Posted by Dr.Worm 

I only have two kids but I love what Martha Sears would say when people would criticize her "The world needs my kids."

Here! Here! Great comeback.

[Mizelenius]

My sister has 6 and I am pregnant with #5 (a surprise).  No religious reasons or anything for having so many kids.  We come from a teeny family and want to grow the family tree.

Anyway, every time we tell my mom one of us is PG, she ALWAYS tells us this story about a man who kept building his house, because he thought when he stopped, he would die.  She says she thinks us having children is like him building the house.  It keeps her alive.

I posted my news about #5 on FB.  I got a lot of "Wows" but nothing bad.  My sister posted the story about my mom.  I said, "Yes, if anyone wants to know why we have so many kids, now you know.  We have a duty to my mom."

No one can say anything bad after that!   (I'm a little worried for my mom, though, since we are both REALLY done!)

[Mizelenius]

Every time I have been pregnant or had a newborn, some HORRIBLE event happens-- either a natural disaster, terrorist strike, or some terrible case of murder/rape/etc.  I can think of them all (9/11, Hurricane Katrina, etc.) Each time, I think, "What kind of world am I bringing my children into?"  It is scary!  But then I think, this is life.   We can't live in fear-- we can't pass on a message of hopelessness to our children.  Instead, we have a duty to raise children who are educated, kind, and responsible.  Let's be the ones to fill the world with them! 

Regarding having only a few children-- it is a very personal choice.  However, coming from a family in which I only had one sibling and a parent die when I was 13, I can honestly say that more family members would be VERY welcome to me.  I can't protect my children from the future, but at least I can give them siblings to help support them through it.  As you said, I do believe this will make it easier for them!
 

Originally Posted by hippiemom85 
 Our kids are going to have a REALLY hard time growing up, and we need to do all we can to make it a little easier for them.
 

[Mizelenius]

It's OK to wonder.  I wonder how people become concert soloists, neurosurgeons, or start their own computer companies and become billionaires.  The world is filled with amazing people.  Just because you may not be able to care for 6 children properly doesn't mean it isn't possible.  I'm sure you can do other things well!

Originally Posted by hippiemom85  I'm sorry if I often wonder how someone can properly take care of 6 children