It seems that here family dentists want to be the nice guy, and see kids only for check ups and cleaning. When there's a need for a filling or an extraction, they tend to refer to a pedi dentist with chair sedation, so that they can "preserve" the relationship with the child?
Do you think I'm wrong to let a new dentist know that DD is anxious about procedures? We thought that we finally found a great family dentist. DD really liked him, and he seemed to kind and respectful. Saw him twice. Then she got an abcess and he immediately referred her to a pedi dentist / sedation, and refuses to do it himself. I wonder if it is because I told him that she was anxious. The thing is, she IS anxious, she gets really upset in preparation at home, but then gets herself together and is very cooperative. She still might express her frustrations, tell the dentist she isn't happy, that she'd rather be elsewhere, and she tends to be very sulky afterwards, and sometimes cries. She IS emotional in general. She does cooperate. Everyone comments how mature and reasonable she is.(she had a lot of dental work done, so i know...)
She does NOT want to do the sedation--she hates being drowsy and hates the feeling of not being in control of her body. She doesn't want to be by herself with the dentist she doesn't know, while she is loopy and compromised. The family dentist is firm , that he won't take her for the procedure.
I decided to try a new dentist. We're going tomorrow. I was told that he doesn't refer out as much--he is older, probably 'old school', who knows. My neighbour's kids are treated there, and they really like him.
1. Should I tell him that she is an emotional person oveall, so he knows her baseline?
2. Should I mention her anxiety?
I already mentioned to the receptionist that we are leaving the current dentist because he won't treat her other than by referring her out.
I so want it to work out, and I want the tooth out. She gets upset (REALLY UPSET) every time the dentist is mentioned, and we can't be going from dentist to dentist...each time is traumatic for her. But she is also very reasonable--she knows it has to be done. She thinks is the worst thing that can happen--she normally a negative, dramatic, emotional person. And she is very clear--no sedation, unless I'm allowed to be with her.
So basically, how to approach this new guy?