I have said it before, and I'll say it again -- you need a new pediatrician!!! This woman, and the other guy in the practice that you saw w/ the fever-of-unknown-origin -- terrible!! All they do is cause you worry about a totally natural, normal, self-cleaning body part!
Is there a naturopath or a nurse practitioner option within 45 minutes of your house?! Have you contacted that person who often recommends intact-friendly doctors (sorry, name escapes me right now)?
I've told you this already, too -- but I have four intact boys, and everything related to their foreskins is totally, completely a non-issue. Period. The only time I ever had any concern was when my old *BAD* pediatrician told me that DS#1 had a "tight" foreskin at around 9 months. Obviously, she had tried to retract to reach this erroneous conclusion. Well, for the record, that same "too tight" foreskin is totally normal today, recently retractible at 6.5 years old, and -- IMO -- perfect!! She caused me unnecessary worry about him; the only good thing about this is that I found this forum!
Hang in there ... I feel for you, as I know you're not in an area of the country where it's easy to find intact-friendly doctors. And I know you have to have a local health care provider for your child in case he is suddenly sick ... but BOY. Isn't there someone in Indianapolis or somewhere?!?! Even for just routine visits??
Hugs, mama. You won't believe what a non-issue this will be for you and your son. I promise! :)