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Babies never seem to get enough when nursing and so im stuck with pumping and bottles, please help
- healthy twins born 36 weeks, now 12 weeks old
- babies started on bottles since they were later term premies and had very hard time latching or nursing
- once breastfeeding started they dont seem to get enough and seem to need pumped milk in bottles to make it thru their day
- i have no idea how to get them to nurse more
- they usually stop in 5-10 minutes acting full
- other times they act too hungry to even start nursing and just flip out and trash rather than latch on
- i seem to have great supply
- babies dont seem to have any physical issues hindering them
- everyone is growing and soiling diapers really well
- i am %1000 committed to these babies getting my milk for as long as i can, hopefully a year, at the very least
ok back story
babies were born 36w0d and were 5lbs3oz and 5lbs10oz, other than that they were healthy and happy. both seem to be too small and tired to latch on in those first days and after struggling with just about everything including syringe feeding we broke down and gave bottles on day 4.
at no time have they had anything but my breastmilk, i have had little to no trouble pumping and seem to have great supply
on day 10 after a lot of work we finally got DS to latch and drink with the help of a nipple shield, DD (the smaller one) followed the next day. they would only drink for a minute or two before falling asleep usally and so the bottles came out still as their primary food delivery
at first the biggest issue was them not opening their mouth enough to get my nipple in or get a real latch, they have been checked out by a pediatric dentist for tongue tie and dont seem to have any structure issues except maybe high pallet on DD, both such very strong when you get something into the right spot.
we always thought as they got older and closer to their full term EDD they would get a lot better and also assumed at some point i could stop supplementing my breast with the bottles….
ok so they are now 3 months
they both have shown me that they can nurse well, the nipple shields have been ditched long ago and sometimes they latch and go at it like there was never a issue. other times they seem to hungry to latch or too whatever to keep at it long enough to fill up. they almost never nurse for more than 10 minutes, usually even less. when they finish they seem at the time to be satisfied.
if i were to offer them a bottle right after nursing ,they chug it down and drink enough to real make me wonder how much they ever got from my boob
if i dont offer a bottle after nursing they slowly get hungrier and hungrier as the day goes on and really flip out at some point. i have latterly spent the day in bed many days now just nursing over and over and they quickly get to the point where they refuse to nurse like they are full but fuss and cry until they get a bottle.
other times they act too hungry to even start nursing and just flip out and trash rather than latch on, even though i know they know how.
oh and it would be hard for it to be about the boob being more work, cause if anything i let down hard, one side is really fast and is sometime a bit too fast for them, the other side is slower and usually makes them very happy (DD will take the fast side no problem, DS is a bit turned off by it)
they are growing great and have wonderful diaper counts, poop is good and any occasionally greenish so i'm not to worried about the foremilk/hindmilk balance or too much let down.
my day is already so unbelievably full with twins, having to pump up to 4 times a day and deal with bottles is just making it so much harder. its just crazy that i cant get this working for us, please help
i am %1000 committed to these babies getting my milk for as long as i can, hopefully a year, at the very least. but i really dont know how i can do this the way i am now, logistically and emotionally it is overwhelming
on a personal emotional note:
this is tearing me up, to have my babies reject my offer of a breast when they are clearly so hungry is heartbreaking and infuriating all at the same time. i have made it thru everything else that 3 months of twins can throw at me and been pretty much fine, but this takes me down. i have felt so much sadness, frustration, rejection and failure and at times anger as this has played out and then a whole new round of self loathing for ever feeling that frustrated with these beautiful babies that are clearly not doing this to spite me.
there has to be a way out of this
Edited by ~Adorkable~ - 1/3/12 at 7:44pm