Here is the really long post in SN http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/thread/1303888/talk-to-me-about-neuropsych-evals-and-the-almost-4yo-long#post_16331924
ETA; Just realized that I didn't specifically mention that this is with Isaac (DS3). Oops--very tired!
The short version is that our ped has referred us to neuropsych for an eval of sleep and behavior issues (suspected ADHD). We have pretty much ruled out medical causes. I pretty much ruled out adoption trauma related causes. When he first came home, he grieved really, really hard, so for the first year really, I attributed his sleep and behavior to that. And honestly, this is better than it was, as impossible as that sounds. Then after he got through a lot of his grieving, we really still had to focus on his attachment and trust issues, and so I attributed his sleep/behavior to that for these next 2 years. But his attachment is really good, and I am pretty convinced that for the most part it is not an issue in his behavior/sleep (he still cries at daycare drop off for a few seconds, but is easily distracted and prolonging goodbyes make it worse, and it is more that it is "ritualized" and just part of the routine than actual distress if that makes sense). He sleeps in a toddler bed at the foot of my bed, and moved out of our bed on his own completely about 6-8 months ago. Keeping him close in my room at this point is as much for my sanity to not go as far at night as to reduce interruptions to my other kids' sleep (he would be moving in with them). He frequently wakes them with the crying anyway.
So, with that background, I am mulling over how much of his adoption story I need to share. We have a reasonable medical and social history about his birthfamily, nothing that would directly relate IMO, but may be significant to the psych in ways that I am not aware of. We have suppositions about foster care based on direct observation, conversations, and photos. We also have complete medical records from about 5m, and limited ones prior to that.
Can anyone share about neuropsych evals, especially with preschoolers, adoption info, whatever you can. I need reassurance that it is the right thing (even though I, and our ped, feel we have exhausted any other options), and just an idea of what to expect.