
Lauren-- 14 MONTHS?! not possible!!! How did she get so old already? Oh my gosh... That's incredible. Glad you popped back in!!
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I know I've been MIA. I have read the thread a couple times but never had time to reply.Â
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A big congrats to all of the recent BFPs. I love reading about fellow IVFers who have finally made it to the other side! Big hugs to all!
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Nanette: congrats on the twins. I'm looking forward to reading more when you have time to post!!
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I can't believe my girls are 4 1/2 months now... so much fun!
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Here's a recent photo. Have to run to get cyring baby... will write more soon
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Blue - So good to see you over here saying hello! PM me with how you're doing, ok?Â
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MBA - YAY! I already sent you a big congrats. Thanks for the PM. We've been terribly busy lately and I haven't been on MDC too much--so I missed it all! But a big YAY!
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Tear - I am feeling you on the DDC thing. I mean, I like them a lot, and I even post often, but I don't feel it's as much of a "shared journey" as infertility was. Is that weird? Anyway, you are more than welcome to start a thread (if you're up to it) for those with infertility. Or not...are we the only 2?
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Nanette - Congrats!!! I am glad your boys are healthy and you are happy.
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YYYM - Good to see you again. Yup, I am in the Boston area. We should definitely get together with MBA. Three of us in different stages. One with a 5 month old, one at 21 weeks pregnant, and one newly pregnant!
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AFM - Baby Boy kicks daily now. He definitely has sleep cycles. DH felt him a while back, and now we're hoping to see him move! Sometimes I think when I lift my shirt to look, he gets still from the sudden light. I am feeling good. Not great, but better than 1st tri! I have back and groin pain. Getting a massage next week, so we'll see how that goes.
Ok I'm back! Hopefully I have some time to type my long birth story before the boys wake up from their nap!Â
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Congrats to Miriam and everyone else who has recently joined the graduate thread!! I'm going to be rooting you all on, and praying for some more ++ coming up from the BSL proper! :) So went into the hospital for the section on Friday (37 weeks gestation). Per my previous post, both babies were still breech, my platelet count kept decreasing, and the words general anesthesia kept floating out of my OB's mouth, so I could have chanced it, and taken the risk that my platelet count (which was at 104) could drop below 100, and then have to get a c-section with general anesthesia, OR, go ahead and get the section at 37 weeks with a spinal. I chose the latter. I'm glad I did, my platelet count was at 118 when I went in for the section and 101 when they tested me the next day. I think the anesthesiologist might not have wanted to chance it, had he seen it that low.
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ANYWAY, I got in for the section at 3, my doula, DH and mom at my side, but an emergency came up with my OB, so I didn't actually end up going in until like 5 (talk about starving! I hadn't eaten anything since 5:30am!!!) My OB, knowing me, bent every single hospital rule. He allowed me to breastfeed in the OR, and had the lactation consultant scrub up and made sure when he draped the curtain he had it low enough that it wouldn't interfere. He let my doula into the OR along with my DH, which was prior to pretty unheard of, especially with a twin section, where there's already a million people in there- She was able to take pictures, and watch over the nurses to make sure no one administered eye goop or vitamin K :) I have a lot of great pictures. I got both babies latched on and suckling for about 20 minutes each in the OR, they were so good!! The poor doc (who is like the best in our area for sections, the director of the huge OB/GYN practice, and very natural birth friendly) accidentally sewed a sponge into my uterus, and when they did the sponge count, realized they were one short, he had to re-open me and fish around in there for it- kinda scary for everyone. Other than that, the actual section went off without a hitch.
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Neither of the boys went to the nursery after that, they just followed me right into recovery per my instructions. Even though the babies scored 9 and 8 on their Apgars, Tristan began having respiratory issues once we got to recovery. I knew it was nothing, I told the resident ped, I thought it was likely just fluid in his lungs from the section. Well my pediatrician decided to go on vacation last week and not let me know, so even though my birth plan said no pediatric residents, here I was stuck with a paranoid one. They took him to the nursery. I didn't hear back from him for another hour or so, when he came to tell us that the breathing rate had decreased a little but was still in the 80s. He wanted to administer antibiotics (PRIOR TO EVEN GETTING BLOOD TESTS!!!) I pretty much screamed at him, and told the Charge nurse I wanted to see the Attending RIGHT NOW. She said he wasn't at the hospital, and I said I didn't care, and I wanted him here now. So she had to call him in. He was pissed to be called out of his bed to deal with this, agreeing with everything his resident said, and I absolutely refused to do antibiotics until we got the full scope of blood tests back to see about sepsis.
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The next argument came when they wouldn't let me BF him because they were afraid of aspiration. (I didn't learn until after we were discharged that even if a baby aspirates breast milk, because it is a bodily fluid, it is simply reabsorbed and wouldn't cause infection- GAH!!) So they inserted an NG tube and wanted me to pump 30 ml (THIRTY ML!) of Colostrum for him every 3 hours!! While nursing another child!!!! I was so upset- they told me if I couldn't, they would have to give him formula. I advised them if they gave him anything but Breastmilk, they'd be facing a lawsuit. My doula got a hold of the local donor bank, but no one was available until the next morning, so she called her best friend, who was nursing a 3 month old, to bring in some of her breast milk. OMG, when I told the nurses and the pediatrician they freaked. Not screened etc etc. Well we made them call the legal department and guess what? They had to let him have it :) I just signed a consent, and the mama brought the breast milk at 1am that morning! The next morning the bank sent over 30 ounces!!! To make a long story short, he was in the nursery for an entire day and a half before they allowed me to start nursing him again. DH and I took turns with Kangaroo care and skin to skin the entire time. He latched like a champ, and was allowed to return to our room, because guess what- his tests were all negative (oh and they ran a urine screen on him for illegal drugs, because the doctor said he was "jittery"- the a**hole) no sepsis, no drugs, just a healthy baby with a little fluid in his lungs.
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We were discharged the very next day, but before that, the attending came in with all his residents, and had my DH and I talk to them about what Kangaroo care was, what skin to skin was and why I was so adamant about those things, and breastfeeding. He admitted he thinks the skin to skin and kangaroo care helped him recover so quickly (duhhh)and complimented me on breastfeeding twins so successfully and said I should win an award (trying to suck up after putting us through all that sh$% if you ask me). Anyway, that's that- we pissed everyone off, got away with everything we wanted, and I'm sure everyone was happy to see us leave lol- But hey we're home, we're healthy and that's what's important.
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ok just in time babies r up! Ill catch up with personals when i can!!
Nanette - You go girl....way to stand your ground!!!!! So glad to read your story and that both boys and you are all doing well!!!! How are you feeling? You didn't mention that!!! They are both beautiful!!! Congrats!!! Can you tell them apart??? My husband is a triplet and his mother said she would put a dab of nail polish on one of their fingers to tell them apart. I'm sure you could use something else, but I thought that was kinda a cute idea. Take care!!!
I just HAD to pop in to congratulate the latest ladies to pop over here from BSL proper! Woohoo, Julie! I will definitely be checking in on all of you.Â
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Tear - so excited to see that you're more than halfway, now! Hope you are enjoying the second trimester!
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AND, way to go, Nanette (and a big welcome to Tristan and Cael!). That is a crazy story; so proud of you for standing your ground. Let us know how you're feeling, for sure. I know recovery can be tough...
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Kelly - Those girls are just TOO precious! Thank you for sharing photos!
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Lauren - second'ing the whole "OMG! 14 MONTHS??!" Time FLIES, woman!
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YYYM - hi lady! I'm so sorry to read that you were dealing w/ PPD issues. I hope it is all sorting itself out, and that you're well.
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LZP - hiya to you, too! Glad to read that your supply is back up! Way to go, AV. And, fingers crossed that you aced the CLC test!
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 Jessica - Asher is such a little flirt! Love the smile.Â
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I'm sorry I'm missing so many! But I do follow along, and love keeping up with everyone's experiences (and, seeing pics of the wee ones as they arrive! So exciting!!!)
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AFM - Cady, DP and I are doing well! I can't believe she is already 5.5 months! Time really does go so quickly with a little one. I always knew that was what people said about the passage of time, but it's really crazy when you're actually experiencing it!
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She continues to have a great temperament. She doesn't sleep through the night anymore, but usually only wakes once to eat (and often doesn't even fully wake). She's in a crib in her own room, so it does mean getting up to feed her, but I don't mind. Honestly, even though I'm blurry-eyed and half-asleep while doing it, I am trying to cherish those moments alone with her.Â
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She is pretty much exclusively breastfed, still. We introduced some solids (she was totally ready) but she doesn't eat with any regularity. Just for the experience of it, not for nutrition. Which seems to be fine, because she is continuing to thrive and grow like a weed! We had an interim weigh-in last Friday, and the chunker was 18lbs, 11oz (clothes on)! I'm interested to see what her official 6 month weigh-in will be. :-)
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We sort of started talking with our donor about #2. He's still "thinking about it." Fingers crossed. We would LOVE to start TTC #2 in the fall/winter, and we'd really like to use the same donor.
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Not much else to report. I started writing for Offbeat Mama once a month, so that's been fun. And, I'm really keeping up with the blogging, so please feel free to keep up with us there, too! Here's some recent pics of the Little Miss.
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I am so right there with you. I'm just about done with my job some days, especially days like today, when parents still keep sending their sick children in despite our health policy which clearly states the rules on things like fevers and diarrhea. It's too important for the parents to get to work and not important enough to them to keep us and the other children from getting sick, so they give the kids Tylenol and send them in anyways or attribute all diarrhea to "oh, we just have her lots of kiwis this morning." It's so disrespectful and I feel very powerless to keep myself and the other kids healthy! Ugh. I've been avoiding all sorts of plagues all week, from DH who's been sleeping on the couch (today is his first day back at school after almost 6 days sick!) to the kids at work. It's a miracle I've stayed healthy this whole time. It's making me worry about how long I'll be able to work, though... with illness, lower back pain (seriously, how is this starting already?) and fatigue, I don't know how conducive working in childcare will be to a healthy pregnancy. My husband said if I need to quit, it's okay, but I don't feel ready to leave the kids and my co-teachers :(
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on feeling all those kicks daily...that's awesome!) I'd have to say that was totally normal for me second trimester. I wanted to hunt down and maim the people who gushed about the second trimester "burst of energy" to me. Seriously. Both pregnancies. Lucky bums. Yes, I was not puking anymore, but eating was still not fun, I was weepy as heck, exhausted, beyond exhausted (I slept at like 8 each night...and you know me, that is not me), and yeah, just plain useless. I sucked at my job while I was pregnant (both times), and I was able to slack WAAAY more than you can as a teacher (both times). This is the stage I was in at your wedding (complete with head cold that wouldn't quit)...remember how fun I was? *I* had fun, but wasn't the life of the party so to speak (remember me lying down on the beach for a nap while you had your wedding pictures taken in the surf? pathetic...) and I had to miss your wedding dance because it was like 11 at night and I literally felt like I was going to keel over...wah!
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I keep wanting to call you, but can't seem to remember at any reasonable time of day. I miss you! I'm sorry your students' parents are being jackwads, and I vow to try not to be "that parent" next year when my daughter starts kindergarten (remind me I said that, okay?). Screw your to do list. I mean, don't, but it's not as important as you think it is. Seriously. Is your dh cooking and cleaning for you every day yet? I hope so (I know he does a lot normally, but maybe he can help you feel less overwhelmed at least at home?). Don't feel bad asking him to baby you...you're doing a ton. I remember dissolving into tears one night after coming home from work and going to the common house for dinner only to find out the "vegetarian option" was overcooked white pasta with spaghetti sauce from a can and no vegetables. I literally started crying in front of about 30 neighbors. Chris said "it's okay, I'll cook you something else when we get home," but I just cried louder because I needed to eat RIGHT THEN. We had to leave immediately because I couldn't get myself under control. Very embarrassing. Big Nell was there too and will be happy to mock me out about it if you ask her I'm sure (gads, this was about 5 years ago and I still remember it very clearly!). I WISH I WAS THERE SO I COULD HELP YOU MORE!!!! Are you eating your greens every day? That might help a tiny bit...even though I remember that greens sounded disgusting too. Anyway, call me if/when you need. I love you!
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And, while I'm here, I have to say Lyndzies my goodness those are some kissable pictures. Your baby is gorgeous and I wish I was half the photographer you are (or is dp the photographer, I forget?)!Â
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Nanette, I wrote a post to you a few days ago and it got deleted when my computer crashed and I didn't have the heart to retype at the time. You are my HERO! Way to go on sticking to your guns despite your awful "care" from that attending pedi...seriously, WHY are they so happy to push formula at hospitals. WHY?!??! Gah! Who pumps 30ml even if they aren't nursing a second baby?
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And way to go on avoiding the unnecessary antibiotics too. I used to have such faith in doctors, but since having kids I've come to the scary realization that so much of things is motivated by what makes someone money, and what covers their asses, rather than what promotes the best health. They just aren't trained in herbal remedies or preventive care because nobody is around to fund those studies or something. My first realization came when I started elimination communication with dd1--by the time she was 5 months old, she could hold it if she knew I was going to the potty with her...despite ALL medical advice that I read which said that babies/toddlers "can't" control their elimination until they are at LEAST 18 months old. It made me wonder how much ELSE they were telling me was just plum wrong. Anyway, you're awesome for fighting for your babies despite what sounds like a lot of pressure. Go you.
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I am so right there with you. I'm just about done with my job some days, especially days like today, when parents still keep sending their sick children in despite our health policy which clearly states the rules on things like fevers and diarrhea. It's too important for the parents to get to work and not important enough to them to keep us and the other children from getting sick, so they give the kids Tylenol and send them in anyways or attribute all diarrhea to "oh, we just have her lots of kiwis this morning." It's so disrespectful and I feel very powerless to keep myself and the other kids healthy! Ugh. I've been avoiding all sorts of plagues all week, from DH who's been sleeping on the couch (today is his first day back at school after almost 6 days sick!) to the kids at work. It's a miracle I've stayed healthy this whole time. It's making me worry about how long I'll be able to work, though... with illness, lower back pain (seriously, how is this starting already?) and fatigue, I don't know how conducive working in childcare will be to a healthy pregnancy. My husband said if I need to quit, it's okay, but I don't feel ready to leave the kids and my co-teachers :(
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Oog, my heart goes out to anyone working with kids while pregnant (ironically, right?). They just have SO much energy, and I (while pregnant) do not. Hugs to you. I'd highly recommend cranio-sacral treatment for back pain. It's totally mysterious to me how it works (I have no idea what she does to me while she works on me), but I do know that I feel better every single time. I had no trouble with back pain my second pregnancy, and I attribute it to my craniosacral person. If you're having trouble already, it might be worth your while to give it a shot if you can. Good luck!
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to ALL!Tear, I think that's normal, especially with a cold! It took me a month to get over the one I had in Feb/Mar and I was pretty wrecked the whole time. I am not sure what advice to give, other than hopefully soon you'll feel better. Work will calm down and you'll be healthy. I know when I get busy at work, it's just terrible! Like Carlyle said, I am still waiting for the "high point" of this pregnancy and the "feeling great in the 2nd tri." Not happening yet.
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Hello mamas! I know it's been a long time since I've posted in the BSL thread, but we've still been around, waiting for a BFP. We finally got one this week! Feel free to add my info: Dionna, TTC #2 with DH for 18+mos, due at the end of November. So happy to see somefamiliar names over here!!
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Hello mamas! I know it's been a long time since I've posted in the BSL thread, but we've still been around, waiting for a BFP. We finally got one this week! Feel free to add my info: Dionna, TTC #2 with DH for 18+mos, due at the end of November. So happy to see somefamiliar names over here!!
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Who ARE these people???? Let me tell THEM what they could be doing for that child. Sheesh. Gimme a break. Teachers shouldn't feel like they have to be THE ONE to provide EVERYTHING for each child. My goodness. I'm sorry I couldn't return your call this afternoon...let's talk tomorrow if we can. I love you.
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