So sad thinking about the end of my marriage.

[worthy]

How long does it take to get over this sadness/grief?  My XDH and I are on good terms and handling things well, but I am just so sad thinking about what I had hoped for and what I feel I have lost.  (The divorce request came from him, but I understand both sides generally have to grieve.)

What did you do to work through your sadness?

[bananabee]

My ex was so cruel to me that he was easy to get over, but I hear you on the pain that comes with losing your vision for your future and all sense of security within a relationship. I feel like letting go of the bad marriage I was in opens me up to good things in the future. My ex hated me with a passion by the time I filed for divorce. He had left me several months earlier, then requested to reconcile, then did ridiculous things. In the time we were apart then, I started seeing how much happier I was when he wasn't around and I was free in my own home.

The loss of a marriage is always sad, though. Make sure you take time to have fun with friends and enjoy your children. Start a new hobby, get a new hairstyle, whatever it takes for you to feel positive about the near future and to help yourself believe that life is going to be good, that you are a strong person and will get through this just fine.