Thanks ladies. It is a relief to hear that some of the kiddie pools will work if they need to. At this point I'm more frustrated about the situation and about having to let go of the idea of a relaxing last few weeks than I am about the actual circumstances. I sent the MW a LONG email discussing my concerns and everything and I feel a little better after getting that out there. Hopefully she has a chance to read it and think over it before our home visit tomorrow at noon.
Neuro- I agree that their office is crazy unorganized and has a real problem with communication. Really, it's just the one girl (the daughter). Everyone else has been great and seems to stay on top of it. I think they put too much trust in Keely (the daughter) who obviously can't handle all of her responsibilities. And they assume things are getting done (which why wouldn't they?) and then she drops the ball. We'll be having a pretty serious conversation about this tomorrow. Oh and as for them charging for emails.... I think it's a little nuts too. But they did say right away at our first appointment that we should always call/email without regard to pricing because most groups will include an additional amount in their fee based on the assumption that you will call/email with questions during pregnancy, and if you don't you aren't reimbursed for this. My MW group does not charge for anything outside of the bare minimum and then if you do end up with questions they'll tack on the fee that most insurance companies will pay. And honestly, I doubt they will actually charge this fee unless it's a lengthy, time consuming problem or if someone is emailing like every single day. lol. I think it's more of just a "we could charge you for this" type of thing. Either way I dont really care at this point. I would pay an extra thousand at this point just to be assured that I'll have a decent birth tub, will have midwife support and care, and will be treated with soem damn respect. *sigh* that's it. lol.
oh and someone had mentioned what kind of tubs they rent out. They do the spa-in-a-box ones. They're hard sided which has left me wodnering, but they have their own heater and filter AND they have jets.... so to me it seems worth it for the hard sides. haha!
Mamato3wildponnie- Thanks for the info on the kiddie pools. I think I will send my husband out to target tonight to get one. I can at least use it now to relax in while I wait for one of the good ones from the MWs to open up plus it'll be good for the kids in the summer. Good point. THanks for helping me realize it's not the end of the world. haha. IT just feels like it sometimes when you've wanted something so bad. I've had 2 csections, 0 vaginal deliveries despite being close both times and this time "was supposed to be different" and in my mind I feel like I'm losing some control. Which is totally a hang up of my own, but I'm just scared of being robbed of this experience yet again after doing everything I possibly could these last months (really a year and a half since we first started TTC and interviewing MWs). It would just be devatstating. But I can't think like that. I have to stay positive. That's where all of you come in. :-) Thanks again ladies. It's been really helpful getting to vent to you all and hear your amazing feedback.