My mom always told me she had breastfed all four of her children, of which I am the youngest. I knew we had all had bottles, too.. because there were MANY pictures of us with bottles, but I had assumed she did both.
Well, when I asked her as an adult, after my guy was born, she said she only nursed us 'occasionally' in the hospital, felt very uncomfortable doing it, especially around relatives, and stopped.
She says she is supportive of me nursing my son, but she is constantly asking (she lives out of state) if I am STILL nursing him, when I am going to give him formula, am I going to stop now that he has teeth, etc..he is 8 months old and I will nurse him as long as he needs.
I thought she must have been a bit 'alternative' because she used cloth diapers on me almost exclusively, I was born in 1987.. but when I asked her about it, she said she did it because it was easier.. she used a diaper service and never had to run out and buy diapers. She also said it was cheaper than disposables.
My parents did CIO ALL.THE.TIME... I know for a fact, because everyone in my family does it. I am 24 years old, and all my relatives still tell me how I would never "give in and go to sleep" when I was put in my crib. I would cry for hours before exhausting myself and passing out. Even as an older child, I remember hyperventilating, OFTEN, while locked in my room because of some 'bad' thing I did. I would cry until I vomited. They refused to acknowledge me, except taunting me, which made it worse.
I had terrible nightmares, and knew I could never enter my parents room at night, so I slept in the hallway near their door.
Both of my parents say they don't regret it. They said they didn't want 'spoiled' children and that we all grew up to be well adjusted, independent adults.
I co-slept with my 3 year old, until the day his baby brother was born (older boy was 2y,10m) and everyone told me I was creating a monster, he wouldn't adjust, etc.. well, he transitioned just find into his own toddler bed, at the foot of my bed. He has absolutely no sleep issues, goes to sleep without a fuss, if he wakes up at night, he will come to my bed and sleep with me and the baby. When the baby was tiny, I didn't allow him in my bed, though he never fussed about it.
I think it's impossible not to be influenced by how you were raised.. either you parent how you were parented or you parent the opposite.
I will never let my children CIO, I will ALWAYS comfort them when they need it, they will ALWAYS know I love them and I am there for them. They are always welcome in my bed. I spent most of my childhood scared or upset, I am not joking.