Surrounded by nannies... - Page 2

[Mom2M]

Originally Posted by physmom 

I'm going to have to stop this conversation.  I'm starting to get REALLY offended by the assumption that I have something against nannies and that people have to "gush" over me or that nannies are not people too. 

Both my daughter and I have been starved for friends for the past couple of months.  We were staying with the in-laws in a ghetto.  We heard gun shots on the street occasionally at night and it was NOT a safe place for her to go outside, go to the park or do much of anything.  She is a very social child and has kept asking non-stop for friends.  I'm sorry if you don't understand but that's the way she is.  As a child living there DH actually saw a dissevered head on his doorstep at one point, the neighborhood is better now but still...  We're finally in a safe place and she's thrilled to see all the kids around!

If I were to find a nanny/child pair that DD and I both got along with, the nanny could be patient with my languages skills AND were around on weekends (or lived close by) I would have no problem with that.  But as of yet I have not met a nanny/child(ren) pair that fits that criteria.  One nanny wanted to be hired and the other two I met did not want to talk to me (and their kids with them were very rude to DD.  One girl spent the entire time glaring at DD and screamed at her if DD came near and the other two kids with another nanny wouldn't let DD use any of the equipment and the girl spent the entire time bossing DD around). 

So I'm sorry if I've had more luck thus far with the 2 parents I have met.  One SPOKE ENGLISH and that's a big deal to me and the other was actually from the same city as DH (where we were for the past 2 months) so we had something in common.  

I'm surprised at some of the comments also, it is pretty clear that is not what you meant!
I'm so glad you are in a safe place now and I hope you meet more people soon, it sounds like you have a good start now! I can't imagine how hard it would be to move to a country where I couldn't speak the language well.

[physmom]

Ok, I'm feeling a lot better now, I needed some time to cool off.  Anyway, DD's made a friend at school (I was actually at her school with her the last 3 days for her transition period).  She talks about the girl all the time and seems to look up to her (I'm guessing she's about a year older?).  My only concern is that I did hear her doing some name calling to other kids in the classroom and the teacher, so I'm really hoping that's just a phase because she seemed like a really sweet girl besides that. 

I'm thinking with the nanny thing it really might be a cultural difference here.  Nannies even dress differently (they wear all white) and they seem to stick together on the playground.  It also seems that there's a big need for more work here because I got asked again today if I needed a nanny (or maybe I look like a really tired mom? ). 

Anyway, thanks so much for those who have been understanding. I think the language barrier is a real issue for me until my language skills improve it's going to be hard for me to connect with any one else more than superficially (I do well with the in-laws because I've know them awhile but I also have DH around then to help translate anything I can't get across on my own).  But it doesn't mean I won't try, I just wish it was like the matrix and I could plug myself in somewhere and upload the language. Plus I keep getting asked if I'm from Argentina here (there's a HUGE rivalry between this country and Argentina so that's NOT a good thing!) because my accent is pretty strange and definitely not the typical American one so I'm sure that's not working in my favor!