I put "whatevering" because we were neither actively avoiding pregnancy nor gung-ho about making a baby. Though I was charting, I was still in the learning curve. But we'd been talking about having a baby, and though we were still fiddling with the timing, we both definitely wanted a baby. So it wasn't exactly an "oops," but more a "wow, that was fast." And I remember waking up the next day being totally excited about the potential that we were definitely in the conception-window. I guess that was "whatevering," but just to be clear, there wasn't any ambivalance.
October DDC, how long were you TTC? - Page 2
Poll Results: How long were you TTC before you got your BFP?
27% (16)wasn’t trying, aka oops
18% (11)was whatevering
10% (6)1 month
11% (7)2-3 months
8% (5)4-6 months
10% (6)7-12 months
10% (6)1-2 years
3% (2)more than 2 years
My third child took a year to conceive and I was charting carefully. I was about to just give up when I did get pregnant. My last option was to get a bit tipsy and have unprotected sex and that's when it worked LOL With this one, we finally decided (after about 3 years) to have another one, and it happened on first ovulation. I was very shocked!! I was thinking it would either take a looong time or would never happen, this being 9 years later and in my mid-30s.
I went off of hormonal bc because I wasn't tolerating it well. My husband was going to get a vasectomy and we were using condoms in the meantime. We had a condom fail, and I took Plan B (the morning after pill) 10 hours later. 5 days of hormone hell and a late period 2 weeks later....
Now we get to hear everybody asking if we were trying for a boy, lol. We have three girls :)
We were whatevering. Due to my religion (I'm Catholic, and a pretty traditional one), we don't really practice any type of birth control, other than a half hearted attempt at NFP (natural family planning). Truth is, we leave it in God's hands and were fine with whatever would happen. So very literally whatevering lol.
We were basically throwing caution to the wind, and just somewhat avoiding sex during my fertile phases....yeah. the key word being "somewhat"...lol.
We knew we wanted a baby anyway, so it really doesn't matter. We were planning to start trying this summer to avoid yet another autumn baby.(all of our birthdays are in the fall, including my mom, his mom, his brother etc-both of us, our kids....argh!)
Oh well. It shall be a little thanksgiving baby :) (canadian) And to be honest, I love having babies in autumn, it's a beautiful season.
The only reason I was really avoiding it was because we're booked to go to mexico in july for a wedding-and it's all inclusive! Meaning-i'm paying for drinks that I can't actually have! grrrr.
(and for the record, if it werent for my dh's best friend's wedding, we would not be going to mexico in july! And certainly not paying what we are-they picked the most expensive resort ever.) Man, that's another story though..
I love the 'whatevering' choice, too. Thankyou so much for putting it on there. We do not use birth control, just the pull and pray method which worked pretty good for 5.5 years.. and we did not discuss the idea of having another other then in intimate moments, he wasn't hoping to, and I wasn't until a couple months before I just started thinking about it. I spent most of my time focusing on not having more, but something changed.. I think many of my friends being pregnant and their baby dust all around, and other things helped my mind start to change.
I know exactly when it happened and he did too, since we didn't pull out.. and lo and behold.. that's all it took. It was a very fun time. ;)
After this one though, I think I will be finally ready to get on birth control.