When DH is around he cooks if he knows I am tired, but since he's never really around, I do it all. What he cooks, while admittedly tasty, is not as healthy as I would like, and he has a fondness for some packaged 'helper' things.
I love cooking, but I resent being chained to it and responsible for everything. As a result, and since I don't want to resent DH for not doing things, I decided to rethink how meals happen in our house. I will not HAVE to cook every day. Evening meals- while nutritious, are not always hot meals- often they are cheese and crackers affairs with hummus and veggies- something really simple.
I have more energy to cook for lunch, so that tends to be our biggest meal of the day (this is also a better time for my kids to eat a heavier meal.) Leftovers are amazing things. I often will make a big seemingly fancy meal once a week or so and while I do enjoy something like a roast turkey- I actually use it to facilitate leftovers for the next week. It takes no time at all to throw together some soup or fajitas or a stir fry when the meat is all leftovers from a previous meal. We eat vegetarian meals pretty regularly, and I try to keep staples for instant nutritious snacks on hand all the time.
For a while I had a belief that I should cook three meals a day and have wonderful snacks and they should all be made with love and presented beautifully.. and- yeah. I had a horrible meltdown and emotional crash when I came to terms with the reality that that is not the person I am. I am happy to make sure there is stuff on hand for toast, and that there are hardboiled eggs for snacks. I will keep cut up veggies and hummus around to gnosh on. Many nights I will set the crock pot on low with some oatmeal and dried fruit. We wake up to instant hot breakfast with no effort on my part. If I pair that with a coffee pot set to turn itself on before I get up, mornings are almost relaxed and fun. The kids eat a lot of oatmeal, but they like it and they love helping to set it up the night before. The 2 yo can even choose what to toss in as he tastes the dried fruit while we add stuff to the pot. I will often make a big batch of waffles or pancakes from scratch. It takes almost no time to make an extra bunch of them up and toss them in the freezer. They reheat easily throughout the next week or so.
Lunches are often our more traditional meal of the day- I toss in a casserole while the kids nap, or I put a chicken and some veggies in to roast at about 10am. It's done when the kids wake up and I can have everything clean and clear so there is no end of the day stress. Pastas are also quick and easy. Salad is something I keep made up in the fridge so we can just toss it on as a side dish.
Dinner- catch as catch can- whatever is in the fridge is fair game. It usually is something requiring less than 20 minutes of preparation.
So, take a look at your life, at what is important to you, and find a way to minimize repeat steps. I know we use a lot of onion, so when I dice one, I dice a few and toss them in a sealed container in the fridge. When I make a casserole, I make two, and toss one in the freezer for another day. If I wake up on any given day, I know that I have the food handy to not HAVE to cook that day- and that freedom alone often means I am more inclined to cook something because I enjoy it, and not because I feel obligated to.