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[jr'smom]

34 weeks + 1 day here.  I'm getting excited!  I know it's going to go fast from now on. 

This is day 15 of bronchitis for me, but my double ear infections cleared up.  I got rid of my pink eye once, but it's back today.  And I apparently caught a cold the other day.  Where do I throw in th towel?  The bronchitis is getting better finally.  I was able to sleep in 2 hour increments last night which was heavenly!  Not trying to complain.  Just struggling and frustrated. 

I'm looking forward to a homeschool conference this Friday and Saturday.  The kids even get to go and attend workshops of their own appropriate to their age.  Sounds fun and useful!

[ldeliberato]

Hi Ladies! I'm a little late on picking up the weekly chats and I wish I would have been reading them earlier! It is so nice to read about what you all are doing and going through. This is our first baby and its nice to know we aren't alone!

I am 33 weeks today and it hit me that our little boy will be here in no time! At times I feel like I have a ton to do and then in the next moment I just want the baby to be here. We have our baby class this Saturday and I'm looking forward to it. I'm hoping it will help my husband & I feel more ready for Dominic to be here. Although, I'm not sure what they could say or do to make us feel ready. Still, I'm hopeful to complete another part of the process.

Last night I also had consistent braxton hicks contractions. I would generally get one when I walk the dog or do laundry, but these were the first ones that were consistent.  I'm glad our bodies do this. It just makes me excited that my body is gearing up to have this baby!

[reelgeek]

Karen - sorry to hear about your Grandma, at least she lived a long and active life. You'll have great stories to tell to your kids about how great she was. I'm making a 'this is your family' book for my baby because a lot of the folks have passed on now so maybe that's something you can do to share your love of her with your new one.

Jrs'mom - ouch! 15 days of bronchitis does not sound fun. Glad you're starting to feel better.

I got food poisoning on Monday night from pasta and meatballs at a restaurant for lunch and puked for 12 hours straight, all night into the morning. The baby was not pleased and kept on kicking me in the stomach, which made me puke more. I at least was able to keep hydrated with coconut water and regular water. Managed to keep down some chicken soup last night at 9pm, but that gave me heartburn when sleeping. Bah. I go for my next prenatal appointment tonight and weigh in, so that should have dropped at least 2lbs from what I would have weighed. Got to look on the bright side!

[PunkElmo]

UGH. not fun. I had food poisoning at 23 weeks (funny thing, I eat strange [sometimes questionable] food ALL OVER THE WORLD, and what gets us? McDonalds in Madrid - go figure) - I puked more than I have collectively in the last 25 years (to be fair, that's not a lot), and I didn't feel the baby move for several hours after I finally stopped puking... like I said, UGH!  

hope you're feeling better.

Originally Posted by reelgeek 
I got food poisoning on Monday night from pasta and meatballs at a restaurant for lunch and puked for 12 hours straight, all night into the morning. The baby was not pleased and kept on kicking me in the stomach, which made me puke more.

[annaconda]

OK.  With my epic hugeness post - a fireworks explosion of stretch marks.  DAMN!!!  I mean I'm not much of a bikini gal anyway but I guess I wasn't imagining it.  Growth spurt and the marks to show it.  I am 33.5 weeks.  

I find pelvic raises make me feel any pelvis pain I have more acutely than anything else.  They are good for you, but they totally put your focus on the area.  I'm just getting used to the knifelike stabbing in the crotch as a fact of life every time I stand up.

Today I got a NICE dose of one of my most HATED things about 3rd trimester.  If I say how I'm truly feeling women who haven't been pregnant in years whip around and say WAIT TILL YOU HAVE THE BABY!  And nod at each other.

DO YOU NOT REMEMBER WHAT IT'S LIKE TO BE IN THE THIRD TRIMESTER?  Awkward, sore, sleepless?  It's AWESOME to get the baby on the outside of your body, even if it's rough adjusting to a newborn.  I've never had one, but this is my least favorite comment to get - like oh you think you have it hard now?  Blech.  I should just shut up but sometimes I would like to be able to gripe a little bit.

[ryleeee]

Originally Posted by Evergreen 

He told me my uterus is now officially bigger than my ass.

i just read the rest of this thread...so sorry to hear about your grandma, karen. i would be distraught if my nana died, seriously. we are super close. much love to you.

midwife appt today went well...i only gained a pound in the last 3 weeks but oh well. they don't seem concerned. she's head down with her head up by her face or at least she was sleeping that way at that moment. haye got to help out with measurements and everything and was very happy.
Edited by ryleeee - 3/23/11 at 7:55pm

[mama_mich]

Originally Posted by annaconda 

Today I got a NICE dose of one of my most HATED things about 3rd trimester.  If I say how I'm truly feeling women who haven't been pregnant in years whip around and say WAIT TILL YOU HAVE THE BABY!  And nod at each other.

DO YOU NOT REMEMBER WHAT IT'S LIKE TO BE IN THE THIRD TRIMESTER?  Awkward, sore, sleepless?  It's AWESOME to get the baby on the outside of your body, even if it's rough adjusting to a newborn.  I've never had one, but this is my least favorite comment to get - like oh you think you have it hard now?  Blech.  I should just shut up but sometimes I would like to be able to gripe a little bit.

I say bull!  Having my son on the outside of me was soooooo much easier than in!.  Don't let them sway you!!  My mom does this all the time.  "If you think 3 is bad wait till the teen age years."  Wow just realized its worse coming from your own Mom!  That means she's bitching about having to deal with you!  SO even more on that.  A) people generally don't really care when they ask how you are. B) they don't honestly want to know how your son is doing.  C) I am so brain dead I don't really know what I'm saying!
 

[mama_mich]

Originally Posted by jr'smom 

This is day 15 of bronchitis for me, but my double ear infections cleared up.  I got rid of my pink eye once, but it's back today.  And I apparently caught a cold the other day.  Where do I throw in th towel?  The bronchitis is getting better finally.  I was able to sleep in 2 hour increments last night which was heavenly!  Not trying to complain.  Just struggling and frustrated. 

Goodness gracious.  You must just be so done!  Have you ever seen a homeopath?

[mama_mich]

My friend came over tonight to cook for me!!!! So awesome.  It also meant that I got to hang with my boy before he went to papa's!  She had just seen me this weekend and was taken aback by how much bigger I had gotten in a few days.  How much different my belly was etc.  I am gearing up for birth quick!  My belly button is really almost an outtie!!

I got a thank you email from a friend.  She asked how I was and I told her great and ready to pop.  I got so sad I just started crying ok crying again.  You guys I am so sad scared about having to share myself with the new baby.  That I won't be able to have just me and Mason time.  We are so close!  I cherish so much our time together.  I think I'm mourning losing our relationship as it is.  Mama and Mason.  Always us two.  I hope I can be the same Mama for him that he knows.  I am so excited about this baby please don't get me wrong.  These feelings I'm feeling have just slapped me upside the head.  Is this a common Mama thing?  Gosh then your sad or feel guilty for feeling this way for the new baby?  Or do I feel guilty for having another baby?  I don't know but I am sad.  Then I'm hit with such emotion over how much love there is or that you realize when you become a parent.  I am blessed with another!  Effing hormones!!  Ok I need to just do my homework!!

[ryleeee]

<3

TMI:

yes, i feel your pain, jr's mom...i have been sick for 9 friggin weeks. i think / hope i am getting to the tail end of it...i went from a nasty sinus infection to a horrible lung infection that was untreatable and had to run it's LONG COURSE with a yeast infection due to the antibiotics and back to a sinus infection. and lately (the last 4 nights or so) i have had so much mucous draining down my throat that i cough and cough and cough and puke, and then my nose is all stuffed up and i'm puking and choking and my life is flashing before my eyes ( ) and the whole time i am thinking to myself how ridiculous it is that i am puking because i don't feel sick. stupid brain and it's puking/coughing buttons being in very close proximity to one another.

anyways, i actually didn't puke last night! weeeee!
and today i've only need like half a pack of halls. hahaha.

okay i'm done complaining too. i have definitely broken down and bawled and snapped on people over this though, i am getting so sick of being sick!!!

[mama_mich]

This was fun to watch.  I have been watching birthing videos with my son and most of them have been orgasmic births.  I have been visualizing a faster less painful birth.  I have been actually looking very forward to the orgasmic part....it's been a long time!

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[clutterbug]

mama_mich, that's very normal in my experience.  I felt tons of guilt on top of all the happiness that DS2 brought (and to a much lesser extent, I even felt it when DS1 was born because we knew how much our furbaby, our first love :P, would be affected by his arrival.  My mom thought I was such a big loser for that :P).  Having another baby doesn't change the level of love you have for the first, but it does mean life adjusts to a new normal and you have to live through the good and the not-so-good of that shift.  For me, it helped to focus on the gift I was giving each of my kids by expanding their circle of family by one more person.  There were surely times when DS1's reaction to baby (primarily because he wanted to nurse, but had forgotten how) was heart wrenching for me, but we all made it through and now the two of them are so adorable together, they are best buds (most of the time :P).  And the other thing I've found helpful is that as DS2 got older and could be left with someone for an hour or two, it became possible for DS1 and I to have those special moments of just the two of us again...it's fun to have one on one time with each of them, such a different dynamic than having all of us together.

I worry as I reach the end of pregnancy and my patience wears thin whether I am going to be able to stretch myself to be mommy to three at once...but I am just clinging to the fact that it worked out last time, and it will again this time.  I hope...!

[Evergreen]

Neither of my kids want to be at the birth. I'm cool with that but a little sad.

[lizzie]

Originally Posted by Evergreen 

Neither of my kids want to be at the birth. I'm cool with that but a little sad.

Wow... I should ask mine what they want! Hadn't even crossed my mind yet. Actually I know dd will want to be there.. I think ds will be more take-it-or-leave-it, but then dh and I haven't really talked about if we want them with us or not... and then if he's not there, how will that change? Not sure. Hmmm.

There are so many of you I wanted to respond to directly! :) And I can't remember them all now that I'm caught up. SallyNichole, I would HEAVILY 2nd the "keep your knickers on!!!" advice. There's really no reason for them to check you, especially if nothing's going on. It *can* be a sneaky way for them to talk you into an induction... (well, you're already 4cm, why don't we just get this going? etc etc Or they'll strip your bag without telling you or WITH telling you, just not *asking* you) I mean, how do you know if you're 4cm or 0 or 9? You're just assuming they're being honest. THAT BEING SAID... you know your OB, and you know what you're comfortable with. Just know you really do not have to allow them to do vaginals if you don't want them to. Your body, your baby, your birth.

Jr'smom and Ryleeee and Reelgeek... I am so sorry you're sick! Staying relatively healthy has saved me this time around. I had two bouts with stomach bugs last time and nothing is worse than throwing up with this big belly in front of you. And I get caught in the mucus/cough/gag/puke routine too. I did when I was sick with both morning sickness and pneumonia last fall. :/

mama-mich, I had a hard time when I was pg with my 2nd too... felt horribly guilty for having another baby when dd was so young, and then horribly guilty for being obsessed with dd and not at all tuned in to my 2nd pg! Vicious cycle. But I think realizing it's a huge change and dealing with how things won't ever be the same again now is much better than being smacked with that immediately post partum! Maybe there's things you can do to help deal with that? Make some kind of "mommy and me" book with your little man, for both of you to look at together while you're nursing or something? Like you don't already have plenty of other stuff to do!! :)  On your road trip.. the farthest I took my two (at 2 months and 20 months) was 750 miles. I had someone else with me to drive, and we spent the night halfway through. No matter how long you think it will take, it will probably take at least half again as much time, if not twice at long. I usually made that drive in one day before the kids were with me. And my two really did just fine. So... whatever that's worth. :)

Now back to making dinner AND eating watermelon. :)

[mama_mich]

Lizzie with bad taste intended your belly is looking sooo big!!  It sems like you have such a small frame and and then bam big baby up front!  Helps me understand the way people have been looking at me!  I love the younger girls in my classes who ask me the cutest questions about pregnancy with wide astonished eyes on the belly!  I tell to imagine a 5 lb human inside them!  You look amazing!!!  Thanks for your response to the slap up side the head and the road trip.  I really love the Mama and Me book time idea!

Bluepetals You are gonna rock it girl!!  I found out going through some 3 yo behavior stuff with my son that there is tolerance and patience.  Patience is a plenty it has a way of replenishing itself.  Tolerance on the other hand... well some times you just have none!!  And it's ok.  Once he understood I will not tolerate telling him something 3 times I didn't have to worry about having enough patience to deal with repeating myself!!!  Ok kind of went off there.  I can totally see my son wanting to nurse again or at least trying it out. He has noticed every growth spurt my breast have had this pregnancy.  He squished them the other day and said "You makin lots of milk for the baby?"  I don't have a problem with him testing it out or trying it out I don't want to make anything weird.  But I could totally see his Papa flipping on this.  I don't think it would be right to say don't tell your papa!  I also don't feel like I need to bring it up to his papa now.  What to do?  Am I worrying about nothing?

On a funny note... my friend had some gas last night and she referred to it as a barking spider.  My son ask "Her have a spider in her butt?" completely seriously!  Well maybe a little worriedly!

[mama_mich]

Lizzie with NOOOO bad taste intended JEEZ!

[clutterbug]

Originally Posted by mama_mich 

Bluepetals You are gonna rock it girl!!  ....I can totally see my son wanting to nurse again or at least trying it out. He has noticed every growth spurt my breast have had this pregnancy.  He squished them the other day and said "You makin lots of milk for the baby?"  I don't have a problem with him testing it out or trying it out I don't want to make anything weird.  But I could totally see his Papa flipping on this.  I don't think it would be right to say don't tell your papa!  I also don't feel like I need to bring it up to his papa now.  What to do?  Am I worrying about nothing?

Thanks :) 

DS2 is totally going to want to nurse again when baby comes.  He asks all the time now - but he forgot how to latch, just like his brother did when iw as pregnant with him.  He opens wide, goes on and then....nothing.  I encourage him to suck but he can't sweem to figure out the coordination of it or something.  We took a break because he had a cold sore (I was being cautious!), and in that couple of weeks of having "pretend milky" through my shirt, he forgot.  It's crazy how fast it happens...but lots of kid seem to pick it back up, so maybe he will yet.  We'll see. 

[jr'smom]

Originally Posted by mama_mich 

Goodness gracious.  You must just be so done!  Have you ever seen a homeopath?

Thanks for the suggestion.  If this continues I will.  I've never had the need to before because I am so rarely ill!  I know my chiropractic care keeps my immune system in good shape normally, but I'm just so worn out!  Yesterday I was at work 16 hours!  Mostly on my feet.  I had office hours seeing patients in the morning, then set up a special "Ladies Night" event  that we ran from 5:30 to 8:30 then cleaned up afterward.  I left before the rest of my staff, but it was after 10pm.  I haven't even stayed up that late in a long time.  I didn't get to sleep until midnight.  Still hacking, but managed to sleep without cough syrup.  (So I am getting better!) 

Today, I had a homeschool conference.  I slept until 6:45 then we hurried to get the kids ready,e at breakfast, and get there on time.  It was really good.  I especially appreciated that they had kids' workshops that were excellent and that they loved!  They even had a play area for our 2 year old.  My husband and I got to attend classes together and see the kids between every class and get them to their next workshop.  Nice! 

We're doing the same thing tomorrow, then Sunday is a day of complete REST!  (At  least for me!)
 

[elonwy]

Getting ready for the shower. I think this might be the last weekend I could do this and not just lie on the sofa and be like "meh, go away" :P So much to get ready! I just made three batches of GF corn muffins and we're prepping all the veg to go in the crock pot tomorrow (we're making two crock pots of chili). I did not get nearly as much done as I had hoped today, as I had an epic bout of laziness. Now I am kicking myself cause we are going to be running around like crazy tomorrow. Oh well, It'll be fun in the end.

[SallyNichole]

So, since this place has had to suffer through all my bitching I thought I better share the good stuff, too. My pubic pain has been greatly reduced this week! YEE! I'm just hoping that doesn't mean she's turned head up but even is she has I still appreciate the break. I'm also back to sleeping really well. Last night I even slept through the night and didn't have to get up and pee once! :) It's the little things in life.