Originally Posted by Evergreen
Neither of my kids want to be at the birth. I'm cool with that but a little sad.
Wow... I should ask mine what they want! Hadn't even crossed my mind yet. Actually I know dd will want to be there.. I think ds will be more take-it-or-leave-it, but then dh and I haven't really talked about if we want them with us or not... and then if he's not there, how will that change? Not sure. Hmmm.
There are so many of you I wanted to respond to directly! :) And I can't remember them all now that I'm caught up. SallyNichole, I would HEAVILY 2nd the "keep your knickers on!!!" advice. There's really no reason for them to check you, especially if nothing's going on. It *can* be a sneaky way for them to talk you into an induction... (well, you're already 4cm, why don't we just get this going? etc etc Or they'll strip your bag without telling you or WITH telling you, just not *asking* you) I mean, how do you know if you're 4cm or 0 or 9? You're just assuming they're being honest. THAT BEING SAID... you know your OB, and you know what you're comfortable with. Just know you really do not have to allow them to do vaginals if you don't want them to. Your body, your baby, your birth.
Jr'smom and Ryleeee and Reelgeek... I am so sorry you're sick! Staying relatively healthy has saved me this time around. I had two bouts with stomach bugs last time and nothing is worse than throwing up with this big belly in front of you. And I get caught in the mucus/cough/gag/puke routine too. I did when I was sick with both morning sickness and pneumonia last fall. :/
mama-mich, I had a hard time when I was pg with my 2nd too... felt horribly guilty for having another baby when dd was so young, and then horribly guilty for being obsessed with dd and not at all tuned in to my 2nd pg! Vicious cycle. But I think realizing it's a huge change and dealing with how things won't ever be the same again now is much better than being smacked with that immediately post partum! Maybe there's things you can do to help deal with that? Make some kind of "mommy and me" book with your little man, for both of you to look at together while you're nursing or something? Like you don't already have plenty of other stuff to do!! :) On your road trip.. the farthest I took my two (at 2 months and 20 months) was 750 miles. I had someone else with me to drive, and we spent the night halfway through. No matter how long you think it will take, it will probably take at least half again as much time, if not twice at long. I usually made that drive in one day before the kids were with me. And my two really did just fine. So... whatever that's worth. :)
Now back to making dinner AND eating watermelon. :)