Hi, I am new to post but not new to mothering.com. I love this site and have learned so much since my daughter was born! I need some help figuring out what to do or who to go to for my daughter. I was hoping some of you with other special needs children could give me some input.
This is Rielynn: just turned 4 years old-
I breastfed until she was almost 18 months. We still co sleep, although it is becoming a major problem. Her only comfort was me, and nursing she never attached to a blanket or any toy or other object. She is still that way. She has some sensory issues, for example any dress up dresses are always "too scratchy" we have to put long sleeves and pants underneath them so she can wear them. her newest thing is "shaky pants" she can only wear stretch pants otherwise they are considered shaky and she doesn't want to wear them. She doesn't like most loud noises, like loud music, the blow dryer, blender etc. she has to cover her ears. Brushing her hair is a battle, she absolutely hates it. I cant really blame her, its slightly curly but I load on conditioner before I brush through it so its really not that tangled when I go through it.
She is VERY active. Others have described her as "intense" or a "handful" compared to other kids her age. Although she is never aggressive with other kids she is usually the one who gets the others all wound up. She refuses to sleep. hates it. even if she is exhausted she will fight it until the bitter end. It was taking me hours to get her settled down enough to fall asleep. I have started melatonin and now it is reduced to about a half an hour but she wakes up a million times a night and it is disrupting my sleep. She cannot sleep unless she is pressed right up against me. She wont even lay on her own pillow. I am getting exhausted. I think she is exhausted. No matter how much sleep I think she gets, say she goes to bed at 8 wakes up at 7:30 she still needs a good 2+ hour nap or shes just out of control, grumpy etc. She gets dark circles under her eyes and acts like she was given a handful of sugar when she gets tired. Nap time is a constant battle. Usually results in me getting hit/kicked etc.. until she calms down enough to lay with me and fall asleep. Used to take over an hour, I use the melatonin for nap time and it has reduced to about a half an hour again. She is aggressive with me when she is upset. Usually over going to sleep, but can just be over not getting what she wants. Time outs are impossible. She will just get up and hit me, kick me, try to bit me, scream etc..
Her attention span is poor unless it is something she really loves. She cant watch a full movie, unless she is sick. She wont sit down to learn any sort of letters or numbers. She simply has no interest. Even just trying to sing the alphabet song, its like she purposely doesn't want to try to do it correctly. I cant slow her down enough to try and teach her anything. Reading books, she will just want to skip pages etc.. Can't sit still in her chair. Anything she colors she will take maybe one crayon and quickly scribble over it and say shes done.
There is probably more I am forgetting, if you have any other questions please ask. I just have noticed, especially as she gets older, how different she is from other kids her age. Sometimes, it is kind of embarrassing and she is hard to take places. I have to plan everything around her nap still. Trying to ensure she gets one or she is unbearable. And if i Nap or lay with her, she will nap for 3+ hours some days.
I have taken her to a psychologist, but the whole time we were there she played in the sandbox and was a perfect angel. The lady seemed like she didn't believe me and my husband about anything we were saying. She said she def is not ADHD because she focused so well there. but as soon as the lady left the office and I went to put my daughters jacket and shoes on, she got mad we were leaving and started hitting and kicking me. My husband bribed her with a sucker to get her to leave quietly and by the time we got her to the car it was a major battle getting her into the carseat. It was like she put on this little angel act inside, made us look like we were insane and then out came the real Rie again LOL
I am not sure who to talk to, who to see or what to do next. I just know we need some help. Especially before kindergarten. If anyone has any experience with similar issues any input is very much appreciated.
Thank you in advanced. and sorry so long. I wanted to make sure I included everything I could to give the whole story.