Though my husband and I are firmly decided on not circumcising our to-be-born son, I hadn't planned on making any kind of statement about it to our families, let alone telling anyone who wouldn't be changing his diapers. I'm not emotionally ready to be an activist yet. I have two brothers who are circumcised, and my family is religious and fairly conservative, so I didn't know how anyone would react.
Then someone asked me at my baby shower, in front of everyone, if we were planning to do it. Here I was, alone, without my husband for moral support, facing a roomful of mothers, many of whom had circ'd sons. I took a breath, and said confidently, "No, we're not going to do it." What happened next was most unexpected.
Every single one of them voiced that they were happy we decided not to (honestly they looked relieved), and how much pain their sons were in after. At least two said they regretted doing it, one who said it was her husband who was adamant that it be done and how upset she was. I never expected such a positive reaction to our decision, thinking, at best, that they would think it was weird or something. I expected to have to explain the benefits and proper care, to change minds on myths and rumors about it. Instead, I found more support than I ever expected.