Getting our DS (26months) to sleep has almost always been a challenge, to say the least. While I joke that he is too curious to want to miss anything, I'm losing it on the inside and now too frequently on the outside.
I tried CIO when he was younger, but it never felt right and didn't pursue it. These days, I'm wondering if CIO or a yelling mother is worse. My son has been resisting naps for over a week, and taking between one to one and one half hours to fall asleep at night. I've been trying to bump up bedtime to try to get him caught up on needed sleep, but with the time change and bright evenings, this has not made things any easier. My son is not one who will sleep when he needs to. Trust me, he was falling asleep while eating dinner at 5pm tonight. When he skips his nap, or is overtired in general, he will also forget to potty (which he has been doing consistently without much effort on my part since he was about 19 months). He wet himself in his highchair while eating half asleep tonight and then denied it.
I don't know what to do. I'm a mess, as the constant resistance, twice a day, is wearing on me. DH does not put him to sleep. DS will wail for me if he tries to; probably because DH never made an effort to help until recently. DH has tried a handful of times to put him down for nap then given up. DH has also said if I left him alone to put DS down, he'd figure it out, in other words he would probably let him cry. I've yelled, I've threatened, I've said no this no that if he doesn't sleep. This is not the way I want to parent, but I'm crying while trying to put him down as he is smirking and constantly moving and playing while I'm singing or rocking or rubbing his back. I've tried yoga videos, i've tried baths, i've tried reading longer, i don't know what else to try. i don't want to yell anymore. i don't want to resent my DH anymore. i don't want to feel so defeated anymore and that i don't deserve to be a mother.