I'm 37w 3d today. I've had no signs or symptoms of serious labor and think I may be a week or two away from the arrival of my first child. Baby will probably arrive the first week of April.
Sooo...my family and my husband's have been making all these plans for gatherings in April. Several Easter celebrations, a birthday party, a retirement party and my husband's stepmom has offered to throw me a baby shower. Everyone is very excited to meet the new baby, which I understand, but I'm tired and worried just thinking about toting around a 2-4 week old infant to all these events.
Adding to this busy social calendar is the fact that all of the events involve getting in the car and driving 45 minutes to the towns where the other family members live. Since we live in the same town as my husband's 88 year old grandmother, it is expected that we will go pick her up and bring her with us to 3 of the events, which although I dearly love her, transporting a fragile elderly person adds an extra layer of work and driving. Most of these events will be attended by our three small nephews and niece, all under the age of 5...who are ALWAYS sick. They always have runny noses, fevers, coughs or an intestinal bug. It never fails that one of them will cough right in my face or on the food being served at the meal.
I know that everyone will want to see the baby right away, but I'm already feeling anxiety about exposing her to so many people and germs at once. I also have no idea what my energy levels will be like so soon after the birth. Add to that, I'll still be trying to figure out how to nurse...
My inlaws have acted like DH and I are being too overprotective and paranoid about this because we won't commit to attending get togethers. I don't want my baby to be passed around and exposed to little kid germs until her immune system is stronger. If people are at my house, I feel like I can control the hand-washing and touching. No way am I going to host a big family holiday or party with a newborn in the house.
I haven't even gone into labor yet and can't believe I'm feeling so much anxiety about this issue.
How have you experienced moms handled this? Am I being a wuss? Are other moms more cavalier about taking newborns out to events in the first month?