no shower for me either and i do feel a little sad about it even though i agree with what most everyone else has said... don't really need anything since it's another girl, i know that nobody who would come to a shower would buy me anything that i do need/want so i'd just end up with more stuff (which i hate), and i really don't enjoy being the center of attention either... especially the gift opening part.
i like the idea of a meet the baby party and we might do that although it would still mean more clothes and stuffed animals (oh, i hate the stuffed animals!!!). but we'll probably get some even without a party.
i love your party idea, realgeek... especially the story book!! sounds like it will be a fun time :)