Cross posted in mental health
My 12 yr old has phobias.
Here is a list:
The last 2 are not life altering, but the fish one is a bit. She will not swim in lakes, rivers, oceans...she will not go on boats - she may come into contact with fish.
It is sad - we are an outdoor, swimmy family. DD is an excellent swimmer (and does swim in pools regularly) but will not swim in natural water. We are going to the Carribean in 3 weeks and she intends to sit by the pool the whole time. I am a little sad for her....
In the last week she has slept in my room twice, and last night she said she was not going to go upstairs until an adult also went upstairs to bed. This is not OK (and might not be a phobia -yet - but it seems like it is going that way). She needs to go to bed by 9:00 as she gets up around 6:30 for school - lack of sleep makes her very cranky. I do not want to go to bed at 9:30!!!! DH often does go to bed at that time, but he should not have to.
She is unwilling to work on her phobias. She does admit them. She figures there is no point and she is entitled to her fears. DH agrees with her and wants me to lay off.
I am conflicted. I want her to be able to enjoy things - and the sleep thing is not OK.
Also - I am very willing to go to therapy over this, but she is unwilling to seek help for her phobias. Should I pull the mommy card and insist or is that demeaning to what she wants?
Edited by purslaine - 3/23/11 at 1:57pm