I need someone’s help.
Last weekend my DH's godson came to visit with his parents (my DH's best friend). While the kids were downstairs playing in the playroom, I heard my daughter saying "No, I will get in trouble". When I went downstairs, both children did not have their shirts on. I asked my daughter why her shirt was off and she replied that He had asked her to do so and did not want to give it back to her. I then directed them upstairs so they would play in sight.
To make a long story short, the next day my son (who is 4 1/2) told us what had happened. We then confirmed with our daughter to find out that my DH godson had asked DD to pull down her pants. She had said no, but then he told her that if she did not do it, "the kids would come to kill her"... Our DD felt very guilty for doing it and was genuinely afraid. She is a very sensitive child.
We have already told the parents that we no longer wish to put our daughter in contact with their child. We feel this is inacceptable conduct and that our children do not have to risk going through this again. We feel if we do, this shows our children that anybody can say or do what they want with them and that there is no consequence.
THE PARENTS ARE FURIOUS and say that we are overreacting to the whole situation. According to them, we are treating their son like a monster. My DH is losing a good friend and maybe a group of friends. His wife I couldn't care less of ;)
p.s. This little boy had been involved in the past with a situation with another little boy that required CPS. "Charges" were dropped but the parents never told us exactly what happened and tend to do nothing. They have found out that he had been also "victimized" by their neighbour's son. The little boy has behavioral issues at school where he calls teachers stupid and hits little girls. According to the parents, it's never his fault and until this incident, they have never consulted a therapist. This is also why I kept a close eye (and ear) on them.
My question is: Do you think we are overreacting? Would you have done the same thing?