I'm looking for some help here.
A little background: I used to be a middle school teacher in the inner-city. I still keep in touch with some of my students. One in particular me and my family have taken care of over the last 5 years. She has spent weekends with us back when we lived in the same state as her, and now my parents help her and her boyfriend out when they're in a tough spot or just needs some love.
She's 15 weeks pregnant. She's not sure what she wants to do. Part of her thinks that they will make wonderful parents, but she also doesn't feel ready to be a mom yet.
She knows we are in the adoption process, but I let her know that we aren't looking to take her baby from her. If she wants to place we will help her find the perfect family for her child and if at that point she can only come to terms with it if she places with us AND she truly doesn't want to raise the baby herself, that we would be there for her.
She has some family support. Her boyfriend is there for her. Her dad is in and out of the picture over the years, but at least for right now seems to be helping. I've told her I would help her get WIC if she needs it and help her find counseling and such.
We live 3 hours away, so hanging out with her regularly isn't possible. I just feel at a loss as to what to say. How do I walk beside her as she makes the decision whether to place or not?