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Poll Results: Which was the BIGGEST change for you?

 
  • 40% (17)
    Going from no kids to one kid
  • 28% (12)
    Going from one kid to 2 kids
  • 14% (6)
    Going from 2 kids to 3 kids
  • 0% (0)
    Adding child 4+
  • 11% (5)
    We have twins- they were the biggest change
  • 0% (0)
    They were all about equal
  • 4% (2)
    Other
42 Total Votes  
post #21 of 23

I had the toughest time with DD but for a lot of reasons.  She is a high maintenance girl, even still at over a year old, but we did so many 'new' things with her.  I was pumping around the clock because she would not latch, we were cloth diapering for the first time, my DS2 wanted nothing to do with her and was resenting her, we were also learning what AP was too,and on top of all this, sadly my hubby had lost his job.  So in my situation it was probably more of all of that together hitting me in the face, then it was adding another child..even with all the stress I'd do it all over again in a heartbeat!  My boys were easy for the most part, we had some issues with DS2, but overall they were a breeze, i didn't really have that total overwhelmed feeling until DD.

 

post #22 of 23

 

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Subbing! Going from one to two children has been insanely hard on us. I wanted four but I'm kind of scared to have any more after this. DH and I are both having second thoughts, actually. DD will be six months in a week or so and I still feel completely overwhelmed. How do you moms-of-many do it? I can't even imagine.

 

 

Oh, I so felt the same way when my DS (our #2) was six months! For the first couple of weeks after he was born, I was so besotted with his infant self that I knew I wanted a third. Then reality set in, things got crazy as they do with two kids 2 and under, and for the next 9-12 months I said that not only were we not on a "two with an option for three" plan, but we might well be on a "two with an option for one" plan, and which kid did the person I was talking to want to take home with them?

 

Then things started to ease up a bit as DS got to be a little over a year. He got less crazy-clingy. He and ODD started learning how to play together. And I started figuring out how to manage the whole routine. So by the time he was 18 months old...I decided we definitely did want one more. Now with YDD, our family just seems absolutely perfect. She completes it in a way that I can't quite explain. And as much as I was conflicted about wanting a third for awhile, I'm not at all conflicted about a fourth--we're done. We're perfect at a family of five.

 

Anyway, I don't have any brilliant advice about managing three (or even two little ones)...I just muddle through! But I would say that if you're not sure whether or not you want another, don't make any firm decisions until after your youngest is over a year. That first year is so taxing, mentally, emotionally and physically (even though it's also wonderful!) that it's not a good time to be making absolutely final decisions if you feel in any way conflicted.

post #23 of 23

0-1 for us, hands down! We're having number four in August so we shall see! 

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