How often do you get out without kids?

[mamazee]

Separate minor outings like grocery shopping sans kiddos and major outings like moms' nights out.

I get the minor outings very frequently, but I'd like more of the major outings.  They're only once every couple of weeks to once every month.

[CameronsMama]

I get small outings alone pretty regularly. DS is in preschool 2 mornings a week, so that time is all mine for now :)I use that time to run errands or grab a cup of coffee/tea with a friend, etc. I get major outings 2 to 3 times a month. I go to one mom's night out every month, and a stich n bitch at a friends house almost every month and DH and I try for a date night once a month.

[GuavaGirl]

My ds is 13 months and I get out once a week in the evening for about 3 hours.  I go to the coffee shop to read, think, journal, dream, etc.

I have to schedule it in my planner so that I make sure to do it.  Dh is happy to watch the baby because he says I go crazy without "me time."  :)

...he's right.

[goinggreengirl]

I've done one minor outing and one major outing in 12 months. I would really like to start doing it more often though. DH does fine with DS though DS still isn't eating too many solids so I can't be gone too long since I don't pump. I think it's just hard for me because when DH is home, I like to spend time with him! And, we don't have anyone where we live that we can leave baby with right now.

I am going to make it a priority to get out at least once a month sans baby though!

[limabean]

Tuesday and Thursday evenings are mine to do with as I wish. Usually I spend them at home, but it's great to know that I can plan coffee or a movie with a friend, browsing a bookstore, sitting in a cafe with a crossword puzzle, or whatever on those nights. 

Every couple of weeks actually sounds fairly often for something like a girls' night out to me, mostly because it's hard for several moms to coordinate their schedules much more often than that. I tend to go out by myself or meet up with one friend when I go out for non-errand outings. 

ETA: Mondays and Wednesdays are DH's to do with as he wishes. Like me, he usually spends them at home, but sometimes he'll plan to go for a run right after work, or meet a friend for dinner, or whatever. 

[Magali]

I have been out 5 times w/o the kids in the past 4 years.  2 of those times were with dh.  We have gone on 2 whole dates since I gave birth to our first kid 4 years ago.  And 3 times when I was on vacation at my moms house, she watched my ds so I could go out for drinks with a friend.

[scottishmommy]

DH and I go to the opera 6 times a year. Other than that I've gone out without DD or DH twice. I do work part time, however, so I guess I get some "me" time.

[CherryBombMama]

ive gotten minor outings since ds2 was born 6 months ago about 4 or 5 times, they were almost always to the market, at night, while he was sleeping.

my last major outing was to the movies, when ds1 was about 8 months old (he was able to take pumped milk.) he is now 2.

im seriously dying to go to the movies again

[mommariffic]

I go out twice a week. On Tuesday's my mom and I get dinner, alone...I pick her up from work and we go somewhere in her town and sit for an hour or so and talk sans kids. It's really lovely <3 I am so happy to be growing so close with my mother since becoming a momma myself, and I cherish these days! The other night I see doula clients, go to the bookstore to study or write, or just visit a friend. These "nights out" help me to stay sane, and I really look forward to them. Once in awhile (twice a month?) DH and I will go on a date, but normally I go out from 4-7pm so I can do bed time and he's working. 

[FoxintheSnow]

Really as often as I want. I might get the side eye if it's starts being several nights a week though. Typically I go out with friends like one night a week. Sometimes more, sometimes less.

[GuavaGirl]

For those who almost never get out for fun/alone time/social time....how come?

[goinggreengirl]

Originally Posted by GuavaGirl 

For those who almost never get out for fun/alone time/social time....how come?

I'm kind of a homebody anyway, we have very little cash for frivolous spending and DS still nurses A LOT.

[colsxjack]

I am the father of a 20 month old.

I have been out for minor errands alone maybe 4 or 5 times.

I have been out for "me time" alone twice.

My wife and I have been out alone 1 time, and that was for an hour and a half at a local bar for a drink.

My wife has experienced about the same.

However, we have gone out with our DD many times and enjoy bringing her along for dinners out and such. It is getting more difficult now because she needs more attention in a restaurant to keep her happy and content now than she did as a smaller baby.

If either of us really wanted to, we could do more. My wife is more limited in the fact that our DD nurses before bed, so her going out would have to be before bed or after bed. Before bedtime is busy, and after bedtime my wife is tired too as our DD co-sleeps with us and still nurses throughout the night.

Both of us have become homebodies since becoming parents. We both work and are tired in the evenings. And we only have one day on the weekends where we are both not working...we spend this day together as a family.

[mbhf]

I occasionally (once every few weeks maybe?) run to the store for a couple of things (gone 15-20 minutes) alone, but generally if I'm going to leave the baby behind I'll take one of the older kids. I go grocery shopping/etc with just the baby once a week or so when my dh is home (he is military) but that's about it. It's nice to get out with just the baby sometimes because it is much easier and faster than doing whatever with all 5 kids, but I love being around them and don't have the desire to go out and do things alone.

[schlafmanko]

I have a daughter who's 17 months.  When I have time without her, I almost never leave the house.  Why not?  Mostly I like to sit in my study and write, but since we moved in last Fall, there are also still a lot of house projects and boxes to unpack.  She's at an age where she can come along for almost anything I want to do outside the house, so I'm not going to spend precious me-time on that.  If I'm meeting a friend for lunch, we make sure to go somewhere with a courtyard for her to run around in.  That said, I have dinner out with just my partner maybe once a month.  It's increasing lately as the grandparents are very eager to babysit.

[GoBecGo]

The minor - once in the last 9 months, though it was used up having my IUD checked at the dr (didn't want to have to entertain a baby and a 4yo while in stirrups) and then walking to a chemist right after to have a thyroxine script filled.

The major - not at all since DD2 was born 9 months ago, quite often before then because i had "time off" when DD1 was with XP.

How come not...?  DD2 still BF's fairly regularly, most of my friends have small kiddo's too, and DP is burning out at work so when he's home he needs to decompress.  He DOES help when he's home, but lately he seems to be becoming depressed and the only way i can help him stave it off is to give over the "family time" into "him-time" which wipes any potential "me-time" off the table completely.  It's a bit depressing actually.  A whole other thread worth of depressing.

[HollyBearsMom]

"Big" outings:

I go the the Y 5-6 times a week

I have lunch, dinner or drinks with a friend at least once a week

Moms night out with the moms from school- once a month

library (alone) twice a week

mani/pedi once every two weeks

haircut/salon/spa once a month

nite out with my husband once a month

"small" outings

pretty much all the time

I have one child who is in school 5 days a week so that makes it pretty easy!

[HuntressMother]

I have two kiddos- and there are 3 grandmas, who *adore* keeping them, so we got quite lucky

I really never have 'me' time except when my daughter is at school and my son is napping. But, the GPs

try to keep them everyother weekend for one night. Those are the nights that my husband and myself go

out for dinner, drinks and dancing- or just dinner and a movie.

Some weeks are pretty 'rough' and i really dont feel like going out when the kids are gone, so i use the extra

time to catch up on my cleaning, reading and beauty routines.

Well- i would post more, but i live in Georgia and we're having some severe weather right now. I am

*terrified* of bad weather....and there was a tornado spotted less than 15 minutes from our home.

[SubliminalDarkness]

Almost never, including grocery store or errands. I will at least have DS2 with me the majority of the time. If not both kids. 

[CherryBombMama]

Originally Posted by GuavaGirl 

For those who almost never get out for fun/alone time/social time....how come?

because i cant leave my EBF 7m baby for very long, esp since he is not on any schedule whatsoever.  and he still naps randomly, and needs to nurse to sleep, so i cant be sure that my dh wont have a screaming, hungry and tired baby on his hands