Today one of my daughter's pschool classmates came up to me and said: "Your daughter is mean to me."
I bit my tongue and tried to think really fast on how to handle that appropriately. I came up with "Talk to the teachers and work it out."
The truth is, the two of them are having issues with each other and with other kids. The teachers have told me it was all developmentally normal stuff and not to worry. (I had to ask them, they didn't tell me, it was DD telling me so-and-so pushed me, I wasn't sharing, I pushed whoever etc...)
My daughter is the youngest in the mixed age class but almost the tallest/biggest. She is not as socially facile as the little girl who spoke to me today (she is quite a bit older).
Watching DD on the playground and in playgroup, she's no bully and in fact is often bullied to the point where I have to step in. She can push, something she's picked up from pschool and we've been clear that is not acceptable.
Anyway, I am trying to figure out how to handle the dynamic. I want to let the teachers know the girl approached me and what my response was.
Do you think there's anything else I should be doing? With the pschool? With DD?
We went to this girl's bday party and it was Lord of the Flies chaos. Lots of hitting, pushing, pulling etc... I was the only parent trying to supervise the kids primarily because my daughter kept getting hurt. She essentially cried for 2 hours and I finally just left. I couldn't hack it and I'm an adult.
That bday party seems to have fed into this current situation.
My gut reaction is to tell DD to stay away from the girl and not play with her. My feeling is she's a bit of a bully and so far ahead of my DD developmentally that DD will pay a high price for continuing to engage, as she will run circles around DD.
I don't know. Maybe it's all innocent and simple but I smell bullying.
Give me your advice. I go back to pschool in an hour.
Sorry if this meandered, I'm trying to think my way through it all. Pschool is hard! We've already dealt with clique 'you're not my friend anymore' stuff with the girls! DD is 3 in a 3-4-5 class!