I really believe in the WBV system, so I definitely bring Daniel in. I worked really hard when I was pregnant finding a ped that I felt really comfortable with and that I felt represented my attitude towards health. She listens to anything I have to say, gives me great advice on things that might have been stressing me out and tends to "neutralize" information that I get online or in books. When Daniel was a newborn, she set me up with a million people to help me get breastfeeding when I was struggling and really pushed it with me. When it didn't work out because I wasn't getting enough milk after a breast reduction, she comisserated with me and helped me work out a plan. Daniel has always been a small kid and a little eater, and that always worried me. When I would read that a X month old should be eating X amount of milk every day it would stress me out because he wasn't gaining so quickly, but she always helped me relax and said basically that babies don't starve as long as you feed them on demand. A lot of other doctors might have wanted me to push food on him when he wasn't ready, or would have encouraged me to CIO when he wasn't sleeping the night at X months, but she didn't. Sure, every once in a while she says something that I don't totally agree with, but that's okay, I just don't do it.
I feel like if you're struggling with your WBV, you should find another doctor who you feel comfortable. When I was pregnant and thinking about vax, we had a frank conversation about it and she gave me her opinion and ultimately I made my own decision. If I had decided not to vax, I would have known she disagreed with the choice, but that she would see my baby anyway. I think most doctors are pro vax, but if you feel strongly about not vaxing, you just say no thank you and leave.