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post #1 of 17
Thread Starter 

Hi all,

 

I'm a crafty gal and I'm excited about making birth announcements -- so of course I've been thinking about a design, colors, etc. already.

 

I mentioned the idea to hubby, and he thinks it's weird to send announcements to his family since they will already know about it. Somehow to him, a formal announcement through the mail feels too removed for immediate family.

 

What's the etiquette for who receives birth announcements? I thought it was specifically for family and close friends - but now I'm confused.

 

Things were easier in the old days when we couldn't just email a photo from our phones ....

 

Thanks!

 

:-)

post #2 of 17

i think it's completely appropriate to send them to close family.

 

when dd was born, i pretty much sent them to everyone who was invited to our wedding (dd was born less than a year after we were married, so the wedding guest list was still pretty relevant to us, but this might not be true for everyone).  i sent them to others in addition to that as well. 

 

i think everyone loves to hear of such joyous news and it's nice to have something to hold and look at (and hang on your fridge), rather than just an e-mail.  when i get birth announcements, they hang on my fridge for a long time. 

 

obviously, family will know long before the announcement arrives, but everyone enjoys a formal announcement.

post #3 of 17

I don't know about the etiquette is, but with our first I had double sided photo Christmas cards made up . (He was born in August.) On one side was the Christmas card and on the other side was printed - this year we welcomed our first born, a son, <insert full name> born <insert date> at <insert time> ... and then gave the weight/length. People really liked it. So, everyone who got our Christmas card that year also got a birth announcement. We ended up saving a lot in postage.

post #4 of 17

I too send them to everyone (well my friends & family).  Even though my immediate family knows hours after the baby is born, its nice for them to get a formal one they can hang onto or show others.  Like my MIL takes hers to work to show co-workers.

post #5 of 17
Thread Starter 

Awesome, thanks everyone for your thoughts! Now I just have to figure out if I push through and send them to his family too, or just leave them out.

 

Sigh ... having a baby brings up a lot of family stuff!

post #6 of 17

I agree, friends and family (close or otherwise, depending on your budget)...everybody loves a baby pic to stick on their fridge :)  We didn't do announcements with our kids, but we did do photo thank-yous for gifts...the first time around just a regular thank you with a pic in it, the second time around it was more like a combined thanks/birth announcement, and I did them up as postcards so people thought that was pretty neat :P 

 

Trying to decide what we're doing this time around  - with the first two, we got gifts from everyone that we would be likely to send an announcement to, so it worked well.  This time I figure we won't be getting near as many gifts, but it would feel weird not to send anything in the mail.  We'll see.

post #7 of 17

Saying you shouldn't send birth announcements to family who already know about the birth is like saying you shouldn't send physical thank you notes....

 

I mean, everyone seems to announce births on facebook these days anyway, but a nicely printed birth announcement makes a great keepsake (ESPECIALLY for Aunts/Uncles/Grandparents, etc. - and the LO when they grow up and look at their baby book or other mementos) and/or fridge hanger

 

If I were a grandparent (or other close relative) and I heard you'd made and sent birth announcements but I didn't get one, I'd probably be offended and/or wonder what I did to annoy/offend YOU.

post #8 of 17
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Originally Posted by PunkElmo View Post

Saying you shouldn't send birth announcements to family who already know about the birth is like saying you shouldn't send physical thank you notes....

 

I mean, everyone seems to announce births on facebook these days anyway, but a nicely printed birth announcement makes a great keepsake (ESPECIALLY for Aunts/Uncles/Grandparents, etc. - and the LO when they grow up and look at their baby book or other mementos) and/or fridge hanger

 

If I were a grandparent (or other close relative) and I heard you'd made and sent birth announcements but I didn't get one, I'd probably be offended and/or wonder what I did to annoy/offend YOU.


You wrote my post. Good job. Also, I don't Facebook.
post #9 of 17

Who will NOT know about the birth by the time birth annoucements get in the mail and in their mailbox?  If you haven't heard it thru the grapvine by then, you're not important enough to get one anyway!  It really is just for keepsakes IMO, when I get them I always already know the baby has been born, but it's cute/nice to get the first formal picture!  Although I guess I'm lame I just facebook ;)

 

post #10 of 17

I'll probably put a Name/Weight/Time post on Facebook (great way to spread the news amongst old classmates, yadda yadda) - wasn't thinking I'd do anything formal and printed (though now you've got me thinking about it, carrot!), but definitely personal phone calls to relatives.


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Originally Posted by philomom View Post
 Also, I don't Facebook.


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Originally Posted by lovebeingamomma View Post

 Although I guess I'm lame I just facebook ;)

 



 

post #11 of 17

I hadn't even thought of this, but it's an awesome idea. I am only crafty to a certain level, so I'm going to do Walgreens. Pre-done card options, upload photo, pick up at store, mail..... done.

 

post #12 of 17

Probably facebook and an email because I'm lazy... not crafty, and sending mail is something I'm not that great at.  I stay out of the holiday card game because I'm wary of adding those kinds of to-dos to my life.  I always appreciate and hang others' on the fridge though!

post #13 of 17
Thread Starter 

This is exactly the argument I need for DH, thanks!
 

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Originally Posted by PunkElmo View Post

Saying you shouldn't send birth announcements to family who already know about the birth is like saying you shouldn't send physical thank you notes....

 

I mean, everyone seems to announce births on facebook these days anyway, but a nicely printed birth announcement makes a great keepsake (ESPECIALLY for Aunts/Uncles/Grandparents, etc. - and the LO when they grow up and look at their baby book or other mementos) and/or fridge hanger

 

If I were a grandparent (or other close relative) and I heard you'd made and sent birth announcements but I didn't get one, I'd probably be offended and/or wonder what I did to annoy/offend YOU.

For you crafties out there, I'm a big fan of PaperSource ... they have lots of colors of envelopes to mix & match, and you can do some pretty easy creative stuff with a colored flat card and coordinating ribbon. I made our wedding invitations, so why stop now ...

 

Although am I totally crazy to think I'm going to have time and/or energy for that?

 

Thankfully it's a pretty short list of people ... maybe 25 max.
 

 

post #14 of 17
we never made announcements for haye because we were overwhelmed and lazy. eyesroll.gif
this time around though i think i will make them up ahead of time as a fun little project and then just add in all the details and the photo and mail them off after she's born smile.gif
i'm still thinking about how to design them though, because i kind of want to include a photo of haye with her but also one of her by herself. maybe i'll make the actual announcement just her? ugh. decisions! lol.gif
post #15 of 17

I'd send to friends and family. Then they get something nice to remember the occasion by.

post #16 of 17
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Originally Posted by PunkElmo View Post

Saying you shouldn't send birth announcements to family who already know about the birth is like saying you shouldn't send physical thank you notes....

 

I mean, everyone seems to announce births on facebook these days anyway, but a nicely printed birth announcement makes a great keepsake (ESPECIALLY for Aunts/Uncles/Grandparents, etc. - and the LO when they grow up and look at their baby book or other mementos) and/or fridge hanger

 

If I were a grandparent (or other close relative) and I heard you'd made and sent birth announcements but I didn't get one, I'd probably be offended and/or wonder what I did to annoy/offend YOU.


 

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Guys just don't think like grandmas, aunts, and SILs do!! :)

 

 

post #17 of 17

 

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i think everyone loves to hear of such joyous news and it's nice to have something to hold and look at (and hang on your fridge), rather than just an e-mail.  when i get birth announcements, they hang on my fridge for a long time.


We send announcements out pretty widely to our extended family. Basically I decided that people like pictures of babies to put on their fridges (lots are still there two years later). I know lots of people (great aunts, old family friends etc) were touched that we thought of them.

A friend designed a 4x6 print in photoshop with his information (joyfully announcing etc.) and I had the envelopes addressed already so I was not too much work.

I will do the same thing this time (designed in Arts Cow's design thing) and found really neat orange envelopes at Paper Source on 75% clearance months ago. I would do something really craft, but I like to get them out right away and have about 80 to send.

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