Now (DS is 20mos) we are really getting most everything on the potty - we even took it w/ us on a weekend trip last weekend, and at least got all the poos (missed some pees though) He holds it really well, so if we put him on before we go out, when we come back, after sleeping, after eating, between activities, we'll pretty much have a diaper-free day. He is sometimes dry through the night, depends - this week he's been teething and sick, and so he has been wet more than dry. But sometimes he'll be dry through the night days in a row. Even if he's wet he usually has more pee in the AM anyway. I do think when he wakes in the middle of the night and fusses I should start taking him to the potty, since those nights are usually the same ones where he wakes up wet.
he sometimes will let us know that he has to go verbally, but we are mostly relying on timing (which is why on vacation we miss more of them I think - his schedule changes a bit) he also in the last few weeks been fighting it a BIT more - not terribly, but when we say 'time to sit on the potty' he'll protest until he's on it and well distracted (tintin books ) I've been trying not to 'ask' but just say its potty time, etc. I am noticing that when he asks to nurse, if I say 'potty first, then nurse' he often has to pee, which is interesting (I started doing this after noticing that he'd pee while nursing a few times - that's the other issue, he can hold it REALLY well, which means if you DO miss it, its a mess! no diaper can hold 3-4 hours of stored pee it seems)
anyway. we are doing good and not doing many diapers but I am just not sure if I should be working at getting him more aware of when he needs to go rather than relying still mostly on timing. He does always notice when he does wet himself, so he makes that connection, we use just prefolds and wool so he never stays wet for very long either.
we are expecting babe #2 in May, so I guess I'm worried about regression also, but would *love* to have only one in dipes if I can so that's probably what is driving me to wonder if we should experiment with trainers or underwear or what. I know this summer we'll let him go naked a lot which should help I suppose.
so a) what else should I be doing? and
b) should I respect his protests more and not push it, even though I know he needs to go and will go right through a diaper anyway? I am not sure how to deal with him fighting me about the potty. I am trying a new book or distraction and that does work sometimes but I worry that there is too much upset-ness around potty time even with that working eventually.