My boyfriend and I are expecting our first (my second) andhave not been together long, no plans for marriage. He's mentioned his dislike of his last name, so I was surprised when he casually mentioned his assumption that our child will have his name. I questioned him once he mentioned it while we were alone, and I expected something along the lines of, "oh, I guess we should discuss that," but instead he became quite offended at the notion of our child having my last name. The only reasons he could give for that were sexist "Babies always get their father's last name" or reasons that apply to me too "I want to have the same last name as my daughter." I realized I wasn't sure what the protocol for this is, so what did you do?
p.s.--I liked my son's dad's last name better than mine, plus we got married while I was pregnant, so my son has his dad's last name and I still have my maiden name. I don't care for bf's last name.