I'm just not understanding what my daughter isn't getting.
We've tried potty training on and off for months. I guess it technically starts with attempting to EC when DD was about 6 months old. We never got far with it, but since then she's always had a lot of diaper-free time. Generally when we're home, she'll spend an hour or so between changes before I put a diaper back onto her. Partially because of her rashes she seems to constantly have (if she sits in a poopy diaper for more than 2 minutes she turns red and if it's a bad poop she'll blister the second it touches her it seems).
We started actually doing some potty training when she was about 18 months. It's always been very casual and I've tried to be very calm about accidents (DH is sometimes not-so-calm, but he's getting better). We've always only tried for a day or two, then decided to wait because I decide she must not be ready yet. Honestly, I wouldn't have even tried so early if she didn't have such interest. By the time she was 12 months she was coming into the bathroom with us and wanting to sit on the potty.
Every time we've tried, she never makes it in the potty. She's pooped in the potty a couple-few times, but only peed once (and that was after starting to pee on the floor and me scooping her up and happening to be 2 feet from a toilet). We've tried taking her every half hour (initially a timer on my phone and then later a potty watch). We've tried her being bare-bummed or wearing underwear. Nothing seems to be working.
So I decided to wait until my semester is over and I can really sit down and devote some time to it. Possibly it takes more than a day or two for her to make it into the potty? I'm not sure, but everything I read seems to imply that she should make it in the potty at least once sooner than that.
I thought maybe she wasn't able to relax on the potty. We've tried everything from books to songs to watching videos on my phone. Nothing calms her enough. She does understand how to poop on the potty (she pushes and toots), but she doesn't tell me before she needs to go and I don't want to make her strain herself. She always goes into a corner and squats to poo (and gets mad at you if you acknowledge her while she's doing it).
Anyway, back to the point. So just now, after getting out of the tub, she was playing around. I was messing on the laptop and all of a sudden hear her peeing. It's not just a relax type of peeing, but like a pushing-it-out type of peeing. You ladies know what I'm talking about. So I scoop her up before she's done (she pees a lot at once) and take her to the potty. I tell her to finish peeing, but nothing. I tell her to push it out like before, but nothing. So I just gave up and put a diaper on her.
I honestly don't care to have her out of diapers that much. The only things motivating me to keep trying are the fact that she keeps wanting to and her awful rashes.
What am I doing wrong here? Is she just not ready? Any books you recommend? I've already read the No-cry Potty Training Solution.