When my first was a tiny baby, I was sitting on my new best friend's couch. She was a new mom too, and started to talk to me about HSing. It had never been on my radar before at all.
That was almost 12 years ago, but what I remember coming away with was:
Was I really going to carry him, wear him, nurse him, sleep with him, listen to him, respect him as a unique person, just to decide because he turned an arbitrary age to now throw him in with a bunch of other kids to be treated as a number, to a complete stranger, and make him ask permission in front of a crowd of people just to pee, and maybe get told no?
I looked down at my little sleeping guy in my arms and decided maybe that was not such a good idea. =P
I went home and brought it up to DH, and he is such an easy-going guy, he just said whatever I thought was best since I was the one that would be in charge of it.
There were hard times. I had a family member stop talking to me because I didn't register him for pre-school. Clearly I was ruining him for life.
But overall, we have always had support and it has gone really well.
Whether is was other LLL moms, or an actual HS support group, or a church where most people HS, we have always found other like-minded families.
Also, I don't think *you* doing good in school has much to so with it.
Maybe you would have done great if you were HSed! =) Just think of it, going at your own pace, a one-on-one tutor, following your interests...
I did do well in school, but only to pass the test, and now when I go to help my oldest, I can't remember a lot. But is so easy really to look things up and find information these days.
My SIL is teacher, and my MIL considers her to be a total air-head. So once my MIL asked her, "How do YOU teach these children?!" and my SIL just smiled and said, "It's not like I have to know the answers- I just have to know how to look them up!" Exactly. And my MIL has never said anything to us about HSing.
Also, for us anyway, I don't look at myself as a teacher, but as a mom (doing what any mom would do) and as a facilitator for DS. If DS wants to learn something, it is my job to get him the information (the right books, to introduce him to a person who knows about it in a setting where he can ask questions, possibly a good documentary, etc) but it is not necessarily my job to "teach" it to him, unless he really needs it and wants me to, yk? And so far, that hasn't been an issue.
As far as them experiencing both types of education, I can't help with that. I have no desire for my DC to go to school. If they are older and want to take college classes, that is one thing, but we're not there yet. I guess we do- just recently now -do some one-time classes with our local HS group that are more "school-like" than we do at home. Maybe you could do something like that.