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post #21 of 40
I can't make up my mind! DH wants to know. We found out with our first 2, but not our 3rd. I think I might want to know this time so I can pull out the right clothes and not have to worry about anything but baby (and three other children) after the birth. smile.gif
post #22 of 40

Yes, I will find out if baby is willing.

post #23 of 40

I'm up in the air.  We didn't find out with our first but did with the next two.  I kindof want to wait and be surprised at the birth but a little part of me wants to have the gender specific clothes washed and ready.  We won't be decorating a nursery since the baby will sleep with us so that isn't a factor at all.

post #24 of 40

I thought I could wait last pregnancy, but DH told me he was going to look about 10 minutes before our only us, and so I looked too and it was so obvious. It was ok knowing, but I was a little dissapointed we did find out. This time, I'd like to wait, or at least I thought I wanted to - I'm not so sure now. I'd love to be able to start making things now and knowing would be an advantage to that.

 

I say do what is best for you :) and I bet you could keep it a secret and make it fun too.

post #25 of 40


 

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We found out with our first and had a boy so all of our friends and families gave us tons of boy clothes.  My friend who had two boys handed down an enormous amount of very obvious "I'm a boy" outfits that I would rather not use if I had a girl.  Not that it matters much to me but I don't want people coming up to a girl in a blue outfit with footballs all over it and saying "oh what a cute little boy."  So now I kind of want to know so I don't have to dress a girl in boy clothes and if I am having another boy then I don't have to stress about buying new stuff.  

 

I actually found that finding out made things feel a little more realistic.  I can't really explain why I wanted to know so badly the first time around, but I just really did.

 

Just a word of advise, though...if you get a 20 week ultrasound and you really don't want to know, I would suggest closing your eyes!  As soon as she pulled the image up on the screen, I saw the little penis clear as day and knew right away anyway.  She pointed it out to me and I was like, "Yeah I see it!"  They get pretty good pics nowadays and if the baby's in the right position, you'll know anyway.  


I agree with this.  My sister waited to find out what she was having and she received WAY less hand-me-downs than other people I know.  I practically got everything for my DD either super cheap or free because I knew what I was having.

 

Also, it still IS a surprise if you find out at the mid-point of a pregnancy.  To me it's no less of a surprise, it's just pacing the surprises out a bit.  The night before both of my ultrasounds felt like Christmas eve, I stay awake late with anticipation and excitement.   :)  Needless to say, we will be finding out..  Oh, and we also co-sleep and already own a gender neutral co-sleeper, so I don't worry about that part.

 

post #26 of 40

For Kieran, we had the ultrasound tech put the gender in a sealed envelope. DH wanted to know, I wanted the surprise. He was going to open it later, but he kept delaying the gratification- all the way until Kieran was born ;) This time, I doubt we'll even get an ultrasound (unless something health-wise warrants it down the road).



 

post #27 of 40
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I agree with this.  My sister waited to find out what she was having and she received WAY less hand-me-downs than other people I know.  I practically got everything for my DD either super cheap or free because I knew what I was having.

 

Also, it still IS a surprise if you find out at the mid-point of a pregnancy.  To me it's no less of a surprise, it's just pacing the surprises out a bit.  The night before both of my ultrasounds felt like Christmas eve, I stay awake late with anticipation and excitement.   :)  Needless to say, we will be finding out..  Oh, and we also co-sleep and already own a gender neutral co-sleeper, so I don't worry about that part.

 

Same here!

 

I had a friend who was so unhappy that I was going to find out ds1's sex. She said something like - but if you find out now, then you have nothing to look forward to at the birth. And I thought "wha???" lol.gif

 

 

post #28 of 40

We didn't find out for the first two and I don't plan to know for this one.  It was terribly hard for the u/s tech to not tell me last time and she keep goading me on "are you sure? really? I can tell you for certain right now..." irked.gif

 

The only ones who really cared were my friends.  "There's so many cute things for girls! But what if it's a boy?!? You had a girl, you'll need boy things!"  I honestly didn't get it.  There's plenty of gender neutral things out there and I have no qualms about using pink with a boy or blue with a girl.

post #29 of 40

We aren't finding out. This will be our first surprise.

post #30 of 40

I want to wait- although I don't know if I'll be able to hold out.  I can't come up with any compelling reason why I'd need to know before the birth.  I don't know why, but finding out beforehand just doesn't seem like as much of a surprise to me, it seems more like spoiling the surprise.  JMO.  We'll see if that changes as the pregnancy progresses.

post #31 of 40
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We didn't find out for the first two and I don't plan to know for this one.  It was terribly hard for the u/s tech to not tell me last time and she keep goading me on "are you sure? really? I can tell you for certain right now..." irked.gif

 


That would really annoy me!  I was considering letting it be a surprise but knew I could easily cave if someone pressured me.   If I had been in your shoes, I might not have been able to resist, and then I would've been upset!  They should know not to do that!!

 

post #32 of 40

I didn't find out with my first two boys and while I'd be perfectly happy with all boys, I got honest with myself in my third pregnancy and decided that if it was going to be another boy (which it was) I would need to have a brief mourning period which I didn't want that to go down in the delivery room. We found out that time and if he'd been a girl we wouldn't find out this time but since we are now at Boys 3, Girls 0 I will be finding out again. If this one is a girl I won't want to find out with my next baby. Does that make sense?

post #33 of 40

I am planning on no ultrasounds, so we will not be finding out.  But if there's a medical reason to do an ultrasound past 20w, we'll rethink that decision.  :-)

post #34 of 40

We are definitely finding out!  We will know early as we will have genetic testing (we have a blood incompatibilty and we want to know the baby's blood type so that my dh can donate blood for a transfusion after birth, if needed).  So I will know by 12-13 weeks wether the baby is XX or XY! 

 

I didn't know what my 2nd baby's sex was and I had to have an emergency c-section and was put under general.  I woke up, asked the nurse if she knew what sex the baby was, and she said "it was a boy, I think".  So anticlimactic.  Right then, I decided that I would find out ahead of time for the next one. 

post #35 of 40

Not finding out this time around. When I was pregnant, I NEEDED baby to be a girl. I had just lost my grandmother and I wanted to name her after her. Of course the moment I got a BFP, I knew she was a girl, but I wanted to the ultrasound to confirm.

 

This time, I honestly don't have a preference one way or another, and mama's intuition says we are having another girl. I just really want my SH to be able to tell me the sex of the baby when s/he is born.

post #36 of 40

I'm about 7 weeks (almost 8) pregnant and was thinking about this today. Do I want to know if my first child is going to be a boy or a girl? In all reality, I think a huge part of me wants to keep it a surprise. I have this notion that maybe it will make the labor a bit easier as I have this wonderful surprise at the end of it. But another part of me (the practical side) wants to know yesterday. Hubby wants to know. But he can't wait for surprises either - he's a big kid (aren't they all?).

 

While it's practical and makes it easier to plan things, does it deflate the pregnancy to some degree by already knowing?

post #37 of 40
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I didn't find out with my first two boys and while I'd be perfectly happy with all boys, I got honest with myself in my third pregnancy and decided that if it was going to be another boy (which it was) I would need to have a brief mourning period which I didn't want that to go down in the delivery room. We found out that time and if he'd been a girl we wouldn't find out this time but since we are now at Boys 3, Girls 0 I will be finding out again. If this one is a girl I won't want to find out with my next baby. Does that make sense?


I understand.  Although I don't want to know with my first, if it ends up being a boy I think I'd want to find out for my second (we're only having two).  I'd want some time to mentally prepare for the fact that I'll never have a daughter.  If this one is a girl, I'd give my husband the option of finding out for the next one.  I might completely change my mind about all of this once I've had this baby, but those are my thoughts at the moment, at least.  
 

 

post #38 of 40

I found out with each of my pregnancies. I didn't find out because of the planning aspect - I went pretty gender neutral anyway. And I love surprises. For me, finding out the gender gave me a chance to name them and, in many ways, bond with them more while I was still pregnant. And, really, the birth of your child is a momentous occasion with lots of surprises whether you know the baby's gender or not!

post #39 of 40

I need time to adjust emotionally and intellectually to things.  To me, it is still a surprise to find out in utero, but it will give me time to adjust either way.  I'd be happy with a baby boy as much as a baby girl, it is more of a matter of adjusting to the energy/vibe of a boy or another girl.  It's not as if I could tell what the little one's personality would be like, or whose features they will have, hair and eye color, etc. so there is still plenty I would be happily surprised with--I just cannot imagine finding out their gender only when the baby is placed on me.  I like the bonding factor of knowing, it works for me.  It's impressive how many people here do not want to know, more power to you. 

 

I say, go with your own instincts and with what makes you feel comfortable, prepared or less stressed.  If it stresses you out not to know, then find out, if it is something you would kick yourself later, well, hold off.  If you change your mind you could always find out in a later ultrasound.  Good luck! 

post #40 of 40

Now I am not so sure! Thinking of finding out and keeping a suprise ... not sure though. I'm fairly certain that it's a boy, and DH wants a boy very much, so it would be nice to have some time to adjust if it isn't ...

 

 

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