So, its still a ways off, but Im trying to figure something out before my MIL "decides" what we are doing. Last year we went out to eat at a place where she wanted to eat, and to walk around at a place that has some kind of historical meaning in the geneology of her family (this is what almost everything we ever do relates to....boring.) She is very much a planer. She has an *exact* picture of how everything will happen, and if anything is different from the way she wants it, she is grumpy for the rest of the day. It was about 2 hours away and we went to another historical town afterwards, and basically we spent the whole day with her. This is what Im sure she will expect to happen again this year. I dont want to do it. I didnt want to do it last year, but my grandmother was buried 2 days beforehand, so I didnt really care anything about anything during that weekend. I was a mess.
On fathers day last year, I woke DH up around 10 with coffee and breakfast, and asked what he wanted to do. He replied, "Oh, something fun. Whatever you want to take me to do". I made some calls and we were out the door and in the car on the way to Newport Aquarium (3 hours away) by noon. We had an awesome day. The babe looked at the fishies, we went out to eat, there was a surprise festival going on, and it was just awesome.
I want something like this. I dont want mothers day to be planned by me and DH's mom. I think its a time when someone else should celebrate you for what you do, and I think telling someone where to take me to eat or what to do for me is weird. I think it to be up to the people who are wishing you a happy mothers day. I want to tell dh, "wherever you want to take me" and NOT have the entire day dictated by his mother. So, Im trying to figure out how to tell DH this, and then how DH can make things short and sweet with his mom, so that the whole day isnt just about her. I mean, she has had mother's days for 30 years all her way because she has never had a MIL to share them with.