This is the first time I am posting. I have read some of the other post and I am not 100% certain about the abbreviations, so you will have to bare with me and forgive me.
I recently married my husband and we have been together for almost 6 months now. I now have a 3 year old step son who is very intelligent. My step sons biological mother really has nothing to do with him unless she has to, the last time she saw him was after his birthday party which she missed and we haven't seen or heard from her in 3 months.
As I said before, my step son is highly intelligent and is able to understand most things that have occurred, including her leaving him and daddy. Recently I've been noticing what I assume are some jealousy issues coming from him towards me. My husband and I usually are not overly affectionate around him, but recently when I hug my husband for what my step son thinks is too long, he will try to get into the middle, we have tried including him the in hug but after he continues to try to separate us physically. Also something else that is strange that I feel I maybe over reacting to a bit and he has done on a few different occasions not as much as today. When my husband would leave and room and it was just my step son and I alone in the room he would say things to me. First he told me "I am going to tie you up with a rope" then later he told me "I am going to throw dirt in your eyes" and lastly he told me "I am going to cut you with a rope." He said the statements rather clearly, but I repeated back what I thought he had said asking him if it was what he said, and he said yes. With the way my step son is, if you repeat something he said wrong, he will make sure you know that you said the wrong thing and repeat it. I'm thinking it is something along the lines of he thinks I am going to leave him and daddy and hurt daddy, and everything will be wrong. Which will never happen, my husband and I have an amazing relationship and always have, I know he is my soul mate, but I do not know how to make this clear to my step son or help him understand that I am never going to leave him and daddy, and that I consider him my own son. One of the reasons I am asking for help is I am not a biological mother to anyone, and this is the most time I have ever spent with a child, so everything is still new to me.
Any tips of advance or maybe more insight would be very helpful and I appreciate it greatly.