I was asked exactly three times. The first time was at the OBs office, late in the pregnancy, where she offered printed information (which basically laid out the AAP's official position at the time.) She just said, "this is something you might want to look into," and I said, "we've decided not to," and her reaction was extremely, enthusiastically positive.
The second time was when I arrived at the hospital. They asked a bunch of questions, and entered my answers in their computer. The one about circumcision was sandwiched between "do you have any serious allergies, especially to meds" and "do you have any special dietary requirements." I said no to the circumcision question. The nurse didn't react at all; she just entered the answer along with all the other ones I gave.
The third time I was asked was the day after the birth, when a representative from our ped practice visited to examine the babies. The doc mentioned that if I wanted to circ, he would be the one who would do it, and I said no thanks, we've decided not to, and he said, okay well let me give you this information about the care of the intact penis-- very accurate information, I might add, that told me to leave the penis completely alone, other than normal bathing, and asserted that the foreskin shouldn't be retracted by anyone.
So all in all, our experience was overwhelmingly positive. I was very impressed with the accuracy of the info everybody offered, and the positive attitude everybody had about my wishes.
Edited by Llyra - 3/27/11 at 8:16am