Is it normal to have to "push like you're having a bowel movement" to get the baby out?
Most of my friends and family members who have given birth vaginally seem to have one primary thing in common: a loooong strenuous pushing stage. They reach 10 cm and then have to push and push and push, usually to the coaching of the doctor. A lot of them never experience the "urge" to push -- they just have contractions and with each contraction are told to hold their breaths and push.
I read somewhere that it is actually normal to have a "break" from contractions after reaching full dilation and before having the urge to push. Is this true? If that is the case, then maybe most women are pushing when they should actually be resting before the "urge" comes on?
I hope that someone who has witnessed/experienced a lot of *natural* births can help me understand what a natural pushing stage should look like.
I can't help but feel that pushing like you're trying to have a bowl movement seems wrong. You're not even supposed to PUSH when having a bowel movement; that's called constipation and leads to pelvic organs prolapse. I feel that your body is just supposed to "do it" involuntarily -- whether pushing to poo or pushing the baby out..
(I can't speak from my own experience in birthing because I was induced the first time around and baby practically shot out and second time around I was too drugged to properly know what happened.)