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BFS: I wish I was crafty. I definitely need to wear a pad every day now due to the discharge. I swear between the colostrum and the cervical/vaginal discharge, I feel like I'm leaking all the time! It will only get worse before it gets better, huh?


It hasn't gotten any worse, but it certainly hasn't gotten any better! winky.gif
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Thanks ladies. Things have calmed down and I feel a lot better. The 'bleeding' stopped during the day, and then it looked like it was going to start again last night at work, but it was only a few drops, and now it's tapered off to nothing again. It never got any darker or more red, just light brown CF. My boobs still hurt, I'm still hot as heck, and I think 'morning sickness' has been kicking in. I'm not throwing up, but I just feel horrid, and nothing looks or sounds appetizing. I'm leaning on all these things. I think basically as long as the spotting stays away for a few more days I'll be able to calm down completely.

 

In positive, I'm hoping for the best news, I bought a high chair yesterday. lol. I wasn't planning on buying it for a while, since... it'll be a year before we need it, but it was the same one I'd be looking at through the kijiji ads (like craigslist) for a while, as being nice and plain, but having everything I wanted... and the girl posted it for $10. I couldn't pass it up. It's sitting in our living room right now, and the dog keeps sniffing it like crazy trying to figure out what we're bringing into the house...

 

*deep breath* feeling more sane today. Thanks guys...

post #183 of 407
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JJ ~ hug.gif. I'm so sorry you are having this stress. Sounds like things have calmed down a little bit. I'm hoping everything is ok for you. I might want to talk to my hcp about it if I were you. Maybe working is too much for you right now. IDK. I don't want to cause you more concern, especially if you can't stop working. It's just something to think about. Have you heard from the midwives yet? I meant to ask how all of that works there but can't remember if I did. When do you normally have your first prenatal? Here a lot of hcps wait until after 12w before they'll see you at all, except for maybe a quick visit just to confirm that you are pg.

I've had a couple of exciting days. DS3 fell off the bed Wednesday night and hurt his arm. He cried for a bit and then fell asleep so I figured he just bumped it. Sometime around 11 pm I scooted him over a little bit and he woke up screaming. His arm was completely limp. He wouldn't do anything with it. I took him to the ER where they decided he had a possible fracture. But the hospital here doesn't have any kind of pediatric orthopedic specialists so they referred me to a couple of places in Jacksonville, FL, which is about 2 hours away. After spending all night Wednesday and most of Thursday morning (we were there until around 5 am), I got about 3 hours sleep from 6-9 am and then had to start calling around to places in Jacksonville to see if anyone would see him to cast his arm. No one would. I had to take him to the ER at the naval hospital there and go through everything again. After that I got an appointment at the orthopedics clinic for today for him to get a cast. Luckily, I have a friend in Jacksonville with whom I was able to stay. So, now my 3yo has his arm in a cast. greensad.gif

Anyone following the news about the possible government shutdown? They are saying that if a budget isn't passed, the military won't get paid. That means we will only get half of our normal pay on the 15th and nothing on the 1st!
post #184 of 407

hug2.gif JJ, I'm glad you're feeling better!

 

I had my ultrasound today, after 4 reschedulings.  DH & I weren't able to settle the debate over finding out the sex or not, plus he couldn't be there today, so I didn't look & the tech put it in a sealed envelope for me.  Baby was measuring right on, but one kidney was "backed up"...just over the normal threshold (but compared to the other one, it looked rather dramatic).  The tech was very nonchalant about it & said that the kidneys are just starting to function at this point, so it could be that one hasn't "turned on" yet, but they'll want to do another ultrasound in the third trimester to check on it.  I'll google it after the girls are in bed to see what there is to freak out about.  orngtongue.gif  A friend gave me her copy of Spinning Babies and it was cool to see that Baby is positioned just how I thought.  Although s/he's got more room in there than it feels like!  We saw it stretch it's little legs out 90 degrees at the hips but straight from thigh to toe!  And the umbilical cord looked huge, but maybe that's just in proportion to the 1lb baby?

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MW: x-posted w/you...  I'm sorry about the broken arm!  N broke hers when she was 2.  It was so pathetic to see her with a cast on!  It didn't phase her much though.  lol.gif  She was with DH when it happened, and it took 2-3 hrs before he figured out something was really wrong & took her to the ER.  

post #186 of 407
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MW: x-posted w/you...  I'm sorry about the broken arm!  N broke hers when she was 2.  It was so pathetic to see her with a cast on!  It didn't phase her much though.  lol.gif  She was with DH when it happened, and it took 2-3 hrs before he figured out something was really wrong & took her to the ER.  


Glad to know I'm not the only one who misses stuff like that. I felt so bad that I just let him go to sleep. He only feel like 2 1/2 feet, at the most, onto a carpeted floor. I had no idea that could cause a fracture. Once I realized it was something serious I felt even worse because I just scooped him up off the floor and put him back on the bed. Looking back I probably should have known it was something more serious than a little bump because he wouldn't let me look at it or kiss it. Usually, if he gets hurt, he just wants a kiss and then he's fine. I know I can't have known since there was no obvious break. It's a very small, thin fracture. The first radiologist who looked at it wasn't even sure there was a fracture at all. But still...greensad.gif

Will you open the sealed envelope? Where did you go for your u/s, NHCL or Dr. Wright or somewhere else?
post #187 of 407

H was spinning N in DH's office chair at his work & she flew out...from the way it broke, we think she probably hit it on the desk.  DH didn't see it happen.  Then he took them to his friends house & they watched a movie while he helped his friend w/something & she was more or less ok while she was distracted & not moving.  

 

Is the carpeted floor cement underneath?  Our new house is on a slab foundation & it is really worrying me for falls...the old house was on a crawl space so the floor had more give.

 

I don't know if we'll open the envelope or not!  If we do it won't be until next weekend at the earliest b/c DH won't be home until then & if we look he wants to look together.  I went to NHCL.

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JJ - Glad all is ok.  Whew, you had me worried with your silence!  GREAT deal on the high chair!!

 

MW - Oh what a bummer about your son's arm!  greensad.gif  I'm sorry.  He will be fine, I'm sure.  But aw, poor guy.

 

Shannon - Yes, when are you going to open the envelope!?! Oh goodness the suspense!  I'm sure if the tech wasn't concerned about the kidney, then it's something fairly common that resolves itself.  Right?  Hugs.  Don't worry. hug.gif

 

AFM - Baby is moving around so much!! I can't wait for DH to get back from his business trip so he can feel.  He has only felt the baby one time and it was a fluke.

post #189 of 407
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I don't know what's underneath this floor. We're in a hotel on the bottom floor. I think maybe he hit it on the nightstand. It all happened so fast that I didn't actually see how he fell. I just saw him sort of flip off the bed and then he was on the floor.

I'd wait til dh got home, too. I wasn't sure if he was home or not. I can barely keep track of where my dh is, much less anyone else's. lol.gif

What was it like at NHCL? I'm just curious for comparison. Will a doctor review your u/s and contact you or Olivia or will they just end a report to Olivia? I assume you don't just go by what the tech said.
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I don't have time to do personals unfortunately - Just touching base.

 

I am not returning to work - I called and told them that I would be happy to return if I could work from home (we have a 70 mile daily commute otherwise). And even though they've been telling me for 3 years it would be just "six months" it will still be at least "six months". So if they ever get the resources so that I can work from home we'll talk about me returning, otherwise I am currently a fulltime SAHM. Craziness!

 

Can anyone tell me what NFP/FAM looks like postpartum? Because we have to supplement I don't know that I can count on those first 6 months being "safe". My lochia has only just stopped in the past couple of days, what am I supposed to do now?

 

 

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What was it like at NHCL? I'm just curious for comparison. Will a doctor review your u/s and contact you or Olivia or will they just end a report to Olivia? I assume you don't just go by what the tech said.


Actually, IME the tech is usually the best feedback I get.  The level 2 we did in Wilmington w/N was different, but the tech at NH tells me everything & has got it all right so far.  She called the radiologist(?) while I was there to double check on the kidney thing...was on the phone right in front of me.  I'll ask for a copy of my results at my next appointment to bring to Olivia.  I still need to bring her my lab results, too!  At my friend's ultrasound the tech told her that her placenta was up high, then the report said it was low, nearly a previa, but when she went back in for another it was indeed up high.

 

lyterae: You're right, if you supplement you can't use LAM.  You have to establish a basic infertile pattern (BIP) and then any time you deviate from that you're not safe.  There are sections in both TAoNFP & TCOYF on charting while breastfeeding.  

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Actually, IME the tech is usually the best feedback I get.  The level 2 we did in Wilmington w/N was different, but the tech at NH tells me everything & has got it all right so far.  She called the radiologist(?) while I was there to double check on the kidney thing...was on the phone right in front of me.


I didn't mean that the tech was unreliable or not knowledgeable but that everything still had to be reviewed by a doctor. Even with a MD looking at DS3's x-rays, they still also had to be reviewed by a radiologist or maybe it was vice versa. KWIM? I've had techs tell me what they see and don't see on u/s. Dr. Wright's assistant does that and she's been correct every time. But, Dr. Wright still needs to look at the u/s pics, review her notes and he also does his own quick u/s to verify everything. I know that's not exactly how things are done at MTFs. They usually have a tech or lower doc (Is that a resident or a step below that?) do the direct patient care but they have to report to the docs in charge for review of everything they do.
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lyterae, how much are you supplementing? I forget. You're right that you can't rely on it, but if you're only supplementing a little, AF might hold off for a while yet. It could be confusing. What I would do (and plan to do) is just watch the CF and use a condom or abstain whenever it starts getting wetter than usual. Then when you get your first bleed you can start temping and return to business as usual.
post #194 of 407

Wah, I don't want to think about charting and temping after this baby!!  But of course, at some point, I will.  B/c I refuse to use any hormonal bc ever again!!

I worry that once I'm fertile again I'll get the baby crazies!  Ack what if THAT happens!?  LOL!!

 

What do you guys think of Nicholas/Nicolas?  It's pretty popular, I know, but it's also classic.  The only thing that gives me pause is there is a brand of pjs and slippers called Nick and Nora -- do lots of people know that brand?  Will they make that connection and think we're corny?  DH also said that we could name him Nicholas but just call him Dax.  There's no reason not to.  Ukwim?   WDYT?

post #195 of 407
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I like Nicholas. I was familiar with the Nick and Nora combo but didn't know it was a brand of something. I just thought it sort of flowed together. You certainly call him Dax. That would work.

I don't really want to think about temping and charting, either. I don't know what we'll do after this baby. My MW gave my dh a lecture about getting a vasectomy asap the one and only time he was able to come to one of my prenatals. I was pretty mad about that. She said it as if she thought it was his fault I kept getting pg and miscarrying. She told him that I didn't need to go through that anymore.

First, he's not the one who's against him getting a vas. I am. He would have done it years ago if I had let him. Second, it's not up to him and certainly not up to her whether or not I can go through risking anymore miscarriages. That should be up to me. Third, I'm definitely done after this baby. I wouldn't be ready to even start thinking about having another baby until this one is 2yo, which would make me 43. With my track record, that would mean not actually having a baby until I am 45+. I know I don't want to have any more babies at 45. Plus, I don't want to risk having boy #5.

I don't think my dh trusts FAM/NFP, though. That's sort of my fault since I convinced him to use it and then I kept getting pg. But that was because we weren't really following the rules, which I didn't press but, imo, it was mostly his failure. I don't know if I can convince him that it will work. We talked about it after the lecture and I told him I would be fine with abstaining/condoms rather than withdrawal since he obviously doesn't have the control for that. I don't think he wants to do that, though. So, we shall see. I did tell him he better come back from Afghanistan with all of his body parts in tact. lol.gif

lyeterae ~ Once you start supplementing with anything, even a pacifier or a bottle of expressed breastmilk, you can't rely on LAM anymore. Shannon covered what to do. Determine your BIP and then use precautions whenever there is any CF wetter than that. Do you remember how quickly your cycles returned before? That might give an idea of when you can expect it this time.
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MW: Yeah, the tech isn't a radiologist, so she sends the stuff to the radiologist, and then I get to ask the MW questions at my next appointment (which is Tues, so not long!).

 

Carrie: I like Nicholas, but I'd be worried about the Nick & Nora combo, too.  On the one hand they sound cute together, on the other hand, people might think you're totally in love with the pj's.  wink1.gif

 

While we're talking names, DH & I talked a bit about names today.  We've been pretty solid on Andrew for a boy.  It's a family name plus the name of a friend of DH's who is like a brother.  But DH wants Eustazie (also a family name) for a middle name.  I do not like Andrew Eustazie (last name starts with G, is three syllables & ends in "ski").  I think I could go with Miles Eustazie if he's stuck on Eustazie though.  What do you guys think?

 

For a girl, we both like Leia (but are concerned about the Star Wars thing).  We both kind of like Rebecca...it's odd, we used to like it a lot more, but we've both drifted away from it.  And then he has two that he likes & I'd tolerate w/a nickname: Helena (Lena), and Delilah (Lila).  And I've got another that he's ok with: Mira.  


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lyterae: You're right, if you supplement you can't use LAM.  You have to establish a basic infertile pattern (BIP) and then any time you deviate from that you're not safe.  There are sections in both TAoNFP & TCOYF on charting while breastfeeding.  

 

 Thank you, I've read up more on establishing a BIP and sounds sure enough. Currently the idea of getting pregnant is downright frightening so I want to be sure it doesn't happen right now, but hormonal birth control is right out...
 

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lyterae, how much are you supplementing? I forget. You're right that you can't rely on it, but if you're only supplementing a little, AF might hold off for a while yet. It could be confusing. What I would do (and plan to do) is just watch the CF and use a condom or abstain whenever it starts getting wetter than usual. Then when you get your first bleed you can start temping and return to business as usual.


 Our current supplement is about 20 ounces a day, my supply has topped at about 6 ounces. So he takes all I can give him and nurses about 6-8 times a day.

 

 

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lyeterae ~ Once you start supplementing with anything, even a pacifier or a bottle of expressed breastmilk, you can't rely on LAM anymore. Shannon covered what to do. Determine your BIP and then use precautions whenever there is any CF wetter than that. Do you remember how quickly your cycles returned before? That might give an idea of when you can expect it this time.

 

 

Last time my cycles didn't return until 5 months(a few weeks after I stopped nursing) , same story though I think my supply was a little bit less. So I don't expect them back yet, and because I hope to continue to nurse longer this time I don't know if they will stay away any longer or not. 

 

Okay, so the plan is to start charting and temping again. I'll take 2-3 weeks to establish my BIP and then we'll go from there. Thank you for your help! Last time around with the PPD I was on antidepressants and birth control (granted being depressed really doesn't do much for your sex life anyway).

 

 

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Last time around with the PPD I was on antidepressants and birth control (granted being depressed really doesn't do much for your sex life anyway).

 

 


Neither does hormonal birth control and that alone makes me depressed. That's one reason I refuse to ever take it again. Last time I was on it I became suicidal.
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There should be a statue of limitations on reasons why husbands veto baby names.  Seriously.  Your old boss who you don't even work for anymore's son's name?  Really?!  Come on.  

 

I very diplomatically told Chris that if he's going to nix every name I suggest he needs to start coming up with some suggestions.  AND if he wants a name that no one in our life has ever used or heard, he needs to be more open to unusual names.  That's fair, right?

 

/end rant (for now).

 

 

post #200 of 407
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Haha, Carrie. I had to tell my dh something similar. It wasn't until I just told him I was going to name the baby Brenden that he started actively looking at names. Here's the list he just sent me, in response to the list I sent him this morning, I guess. You guys should get a kick out of this because there's a name on there that I told you all he had vetoed when I suggested it. lol.gif

Reamon (ray-mon): Celtic boys name meaning "counsellor and protector"
Kane: Irish meaning "little battler"
Nolan: Irish meaning "champion"

I do not like the first one at all. It's too much like Raymond. We've already discussed Kane several times. That was one of the names I had originally picked and suggested to dh but then decided it was a no go because it doesn't have then -an ending sound. And the last one...you guys should know. So, maybe that will be it.
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